(Closed) Super awkward situation. What would you have done?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 32
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I think you handled it just fine, and your friend just emailed so you wouldn’t feel bad. I would probably do the same thing if my mom did this (although she wouldn’t because she is not a crazy pants,lol)

Post # 33
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Busy Beekeeper

What a a weirdo. She was inapporiate and tried to manipulate you (which her daughter confirmed). Nothing more to do. Wow what a cray, cray. 

Post # 34
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Busy bee

I think the only good thing to come out of this is that your old friend proved her worth (and probably why you used to be friends!). To email someone you’ve been out of touch with for so long because you know they’ve had to deal with your mother has got to be tough and VERY embarrassing. But she did it just to make sure you weren’t feeling guilty. If you’re going to take anything away from this, I vote it’s that!

Post # 35
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@March1stBride:  I’d just send her an email back thanking her for reaching out and then be done with it. Her mother is way out of line and you shouldn’t feel bad whatsoever.

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@March1stBride:  Haha I love that we’re just threadjacking your own thread LOL

Oh please I posted that in a public forum, not creepy AT ALL!
I am still wearing that dress!
I was having a REALLY bad day when I wrote that post (on top of wedding stress, Fiance and I are remodeling our next apartment and we need to move out of our current place by Jan 31st! So I had just come off a full weekend of framing and spackling walls)
But I got different shoes. I’m getting the dress altered this week so I don’t feel so awkward up top (which in part caused the slouching).

I still need all my dress accessories, we’re cake tasting next weekend, in the process of working with some travel agents for the honeymoon, I need to finish making our invitations and send them out (ugh), there’s still a TON of stuff to do.
Oh well, I’ll knock it out as I go. 😛

There’s a whole thread for March 1st brides: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/march-1st-2014#axzz2mzeO8HSY
It’ll probably get more active soon. Or not, since it’s such an off-season date haha.
I mean, I don’t mind blowing up that thread for the next few weeks, I need motivation! Haha!

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@March1stBride:  Ha, what a weird situation. I almost wish that you could’ve matched her level of crazy by turning into a basketcase yourself. Then you both could’ve been a crying mess in the middle of the grocery store! 

In all seriousness, I do think you handled it the best you could. 

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@March1stBride:  I guess it is a bit inconsiderate to post wedding related thing to facebook, but the only time it bothers me if it the person only post weedding things and nothing else.

 

Maybe I’m the exception, but I enjoy getting to see wedding/engagment photos from facebook friends, and I’m not offended to be left out of the wedding invites unless we are really close or family in real life. I love seeing a happy friend/former close friend post an engagment photo and/or ring because I like knowing that their lives are going well and being able to wish them well even though we aren’t close any more.

 

I mean, if I have a facebook friend who I haven’t seen in person in years, and they post wedding stuff, in no way would I think I should get an invitation. Now, I would find it very rude to post up a wedding invite, or write statuses that are intended for weddign guests only like “can’t wait to see you all at my wedding!!!” or something.

 

Also, rude people are known to pull this kind of thing even when they only hear about your engagment/wedding through word-of-mouth. That is how I see facebook… just a faster version of the good old-fashioned grapevine. If this woman talks to anyone in your old circle (your mom, relatives, moms of other friends you are still close to) she probably would have found out anyway.

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@March1stBride:  Omg! This is…. so awkward. I think you handled it well though! I would have just laughed…

Post # 41
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Busy bee

I feel awful for you girl. Let me tell you something. At one point in my life I use to be offended every time I didn’t get a wedding invitation. As I begin to mature this past year, I realize that weddings are expensive and if I don’t get a invitation then I shouldn’t be offended unless it was a family member/relative. 

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@March1stBride:  I’ll probably do half-up style with my hair. I haven’t found a veil/haricomb yet which is annoying!

I’m actually planning on making a long skirt to go on top of the dress for the ceremony, then taking it off the the reception. And yeah, comfort was a HUGE thing for me, I know I won’t have a good time in an uncomfortable dress. :/
I just have to remember I’m not wearing pants with such a full, short skirt LOL

I’ve heard a lot of people say that keeping an electric fan underneath your sweetheart table helps a LOT with ballgown dresses, you aim it under your dress so you can cool off a bit when you sit down at your table haha

Post # 43
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

You didn’t do anything wrong. I think you friend’s mom is OVERLY sensitive…like, to the point where she might need to get her mental health checked out. I would have reacted the same way. At laest your friend was more mature about it. It’s so horribly embarassing to see a grown woman cry in the grocery store. Wow, she must have left her dignity in a different aisle or something…

Post # 44
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@March1stBride:  You didnt do anything wrong at all. This persion is a nut job (just a little bit hopefully) and thats not how an ADULT should act.

I would send a not back to your friend on Facebook saying something like “Its no problem I just didnt know what to do to make her feel better. I feel so bad that I had to limit our guest list to just family. But thanks so much for letting me know, see you on Facebook.” 

And then I would not worrie about it at all. Leave it as an awkward wedding moment and dont look back lol.

Post # 46
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Honey bee

@March1stBride:  It sounds like you handled it perfectly. If you had said you gave in and were inviting her I would’ve told you that was ridiculous lol. What a nutter, good job dealing with that, I probably would’ve freaked out and ran away!

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