(Closed) Super Awkward Wedding Gift Problem! PLEASE HELP!

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 4
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911 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

Yeah, this is a bit sticky. Did they buy off your registry? If so, there has to be a way you could look it up through them.

If not, I would just send a “thank you for sharing our special day” type thank you note to all 15 people. That covers you. If any of them come back with, “Oh, but didn’t you love the gravy boat we got you?”, then I think you can admit that you didnt know it was from them bc the card was lost.

I don’t think there is any way to account for potential missing cards, but I woud tell your in-laws to cancel any check that may have been in that card. Just in case.

Post # 5
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1304 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Send a Bcc’d email to all the people you think may have sent the unlabeled gifts.  “Hello beloved wedding guests!  Thank you so very much for sharing in our day!  We are diligently working on our thank you notes and discovered a blender and three place settings with no tags attached.  If you were the mystery gift giver could you please reply and let us know so that we can thank you properly?  Many thanks in advance for your cooperation, and our sincere apologies for any inconvenience.  Love, Muffin and Archibald”

Make sure you keep it light so that no one thinks you’re calling them out.

Or, if your network is tight-knit, you could ask your bridal party or immediate family to spread the word.

Post # 6
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699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Depending on what your group is like/your preferred use of facebook, you could consider posting something about knowing one specific card is missing.  “I’m really upset to discover that the card from my in-laws went missing from the gift table, how do these things happen?”  or something like that… it’ll be tricky to make it not sound like ti’s fishing, but if I ever read that on someone’s wall where I gave a gift, I would send them a message saying “Spouse and I gave you ____, I hope you received it.”

This is one of the reasons that I’ve adopted giving eTransfers of cash… very difficult to steal!

Post # 8
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263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

bump because I also have this qn

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I really like ElbieKay’s suggestion. Thats such a bummer that a card was stolen 🙁 were the gifts & cards in a area where it would have been easy to steal them?  I hope this does not happen at our wedding =/

Post # 10
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206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

interesting and potentially awkward situation i think you really answered it tho ElbieKay that response was perfect!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Is it awkward that I’d probably take a picture of the still-wrapped gift (if possible) or unwrapped, and post it on facebook asking who’d given us this wonderful gift

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

Agree with ElbieKay.

do NOT post anything to facebook about it!!  That seems tacky to me. 

Post # 13
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11166 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I really like the email idea and hopefully it will work for you.

We have finished our thank you cards and still have one gift that was given at the wedding without a card. We have emailed, called various members of the family that are in the know and yes we posted on FB…nothing. No one has come forward to claim the mysterious gift. I feel bad that we are unable to thank the proper person. Four months and counting….

Post # 14
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3374 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would first talk to your in laws and see if the check was cashed or what was in their gift. They may have forgtoten to put it in the box after all.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@AshleyR83:  Eh, that was how I solved who gave me the gift with no tag. I got four responses right away and then I knew who to write the Thank You card to!

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