Post # 1
The wedding is over and we got back from our honeymoon yesterday! Now it’s time for the thank you cards! BUT we have a very awkward problem.
First: we never received the card my husband’s parents said they put in the box for us…so we are worried there may have been some sticky fingers around.
Second: we received two gifts with no names on them. We have absolutely no idea who they are from.
And last: after going through our guest list and the people that were there and the list of gifts we received there are about 15 people we didn’t receive anything from. OF COURSE we weren’t expecting gifts from anyone and it’s not a big deal at all…
BUT since we received two without names and know at least one card is missing I don’t know what to do. Obviously if someone gave us a gift we want to make sure we thank them.
What do I do to make sure we thank everyone who did give us a gift and how do I make sure there aren’t more missing cards??
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia
Yeah, this is a bit sticky. Did they buy off your registry? If so, there has to be a way you could look it up through them.
If not, I would just send a “thank you for sharing our special day” type thank you note to all 15 people. That covers you. If any of them come back with, “Oh, but didn’t you love the gravy boat we got you?”, then I think you can admit that you didnt know it was from them bc the card was lost.
I don’t think there is any way to account for potential missing cards, but I woud tell your in-laws to cancel any check that may have been in that card. Just in case.
Post # 5
Send a Bcc’d email to all the people you think may have sent the unlabeled gifts. “Hello beloved wedding guests! Thank you so very much for sharing in our day! We are diligently working on our thank you notes and discovered a blender and three place settings with no tags attached. If you were the mystery gift giver could you please reply and let us know so that we can thank you properly? Many thanks in advance for your cooperation, and our sincere apologies for any inconvenience. Love, Muffin and Archibald”
Make sure you keep it light so that no one thinks you’re calling them out.
Or, if your network is tight-knit, you could ask your bridal party or immediate family to spread the word.
Post # 6
Depending on what your group is like/your preferred use of facebook, you could consider posting something about knowing one specific card is missing. “I’m really upset to discover that the card from my in-laws went missing from the gift table, how do these things happen?” or something like that… it’ll be tricky to make it not sound like ti’s fishing, but if I ever read that on someone’s wall where I gave a gift, I would send them a message saying “Spouse and I gave you ____, I hope you received it.”
This is one of the reasons that I’ve adopted giving eTransfers of cash… very difficult to steal!
Post # 8
bump because I also have this qn
Post # 9
I really like ElbieKay’s suggestion. Thats such a bummer that a card was stolen 🙁 were the gifts & cards in a area where it would have been easy to steal them? I hope this does not happen at our wedding =/
Post # 10
interesting and potentially awkward situation i think you really answered it tho ElbieKay that response was perfect!
Post # 11
Is it awkward that I’d probably take a picture of the still-wrapped gift (if possible) or unwrapped, and post it on facebook asking who’d given us this wonderful gift
Post # 12
Agree with ElbieKay.
do NOT post anything to facebook about it!! That seems tacky to me.
Post # 13
I really like the email idea and hopefully it will work for you.
We have finished our thank you cards and still have one gift that was given at the wedding without a card. We have emailed, called various members of the family that are in the know and yes we posted on FB…nothing. No one has come forward to claim the mysterious gift. I feel bad that we are unable to thank the proper person. Four months and counting….
Post # 14
I would first talk to your in laws and see if the check was cashed or what was in their gift. They may have forgtoten to put it in the box after all.
Post # 15
@AshleyR83: Eh, that was how I solved who gave me the gift with no tag. I got four responses right away and then I knew who to write the Thank You card to!