Post # 1
We have a new niece! Anna was born yesterday – 6lbs, 19oz. Darling Husband and I are so excited that our family is expanding and that we will have another niece to spoil.
Despite the excitement, I’m a little disappointed. My sister-in-law has asked me many times over the course of her pregnancy to be in the room when Anna was delivered. I was hesitant at first, but I had really opened up to the idea and was really, really looking forward to it. I felt like it was really bonding me to the family completely.
Well, I was in the room and feeding her ice chips and really participating – until her best friend came into the room. She had the demeanor of, ok, I’m here now you can get out. It was a horrible feeling, like me and my mother in law were intruding. So, when the nurse said only two people could stay, the friend looked at me like, yeah you need to leave. My sister-in-law was in no mental state to say anything differently, so I just finally gave in and left the room.
I feel selfish for feeling so hurt but I really can’t help it. I don’t think I should say anything to my sister-in-law. I tried to talk to Darling Husband about it, but he didn’t seem to get it.
Post # 3
I’m sorry. I know it can feel bad being excluded, especially from such a special thing. Just understand, it wasn’t personal. If your doctor told you to choose only two people to be in your room who would you have wanted there? IMO, it’d be my mom and husband and if it were down to someone besides my husaband or sister, it’d be my best friend before anybody else.
Post # 4
Congratulations! That does sort of suck. Don’t feel like you’re being selfish…births and new babies are something so special that of course everyone wants to be invloved. Unless her friend was her coach during classes or something she shouldn’t have booted you out like that. You’re the real auntie now anyway!
She’s your little neice so you’re allowed to be selfish sometimes anyway 😉 If you’re upset about missing the actual birth just remember how many good times you’ll have with that precious little girl now that you’re apart of the family.
Post # 5
If she hadn’t have asked me so many times during the pregnancy, it wouldn’t have bothered me one bit. The friend got the second spot over both grandmothers and me, so I find it odd that the friend just assumed it was her spot and no one else’s (she wasn’t her coach or anything). I just got a text message from my sister saying she wants to see us at the hospital as soon as we can get there after work. Even though she really wants us there, I still feel that if her friend is still hovering and such, I’m going to feel like an intruder again.