- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
So, here’s a little back story: My friend, let’s call her Gina, asked me to be in her wedding this fall. We used to work together, but she has since found a new job and move on. She asked me to be in her wedding early in January, when we were still working together and seeing each other almost every day. I went with her when she found her dress and a few of the bridesmaids all tried on (and purchased)bridesmaids dresses that day as well. However, since she got her new job, we haven’t seen eachother at all. I call/text her about once a week trying to plan something – I always offer to help her with wedding stuff, or just to sneak in a quick lunch or coffee date, but she almost NEVER gets back to me. If she does, we’ll make tenative plans, but she hardly ever follows through. I sent her a message on Wednesday of this week asking if she’d have time to get together soon and, as expected, I still haven’t heard back from her.
I know only a couple of the other bridesmaids, but I would call them acquaintances rather than friends, so I’m nervous that the wedding might be a bit awkward if she continues to blow me off. Also, I can’t ignore the fact that I’ve already spent $200 on a dress for this wedding, and am expected to take a weekend off of work(I’m a bartender), buy a plane ticket/hotel room for her bachelorette party in Chicago, , buy gifts for showers and the wedding, and then take another whole weekend off for the wedding itself in September. I realize she’s busy planning, but I’m investing a lot of money in this wedding, and the fact that she can’t even make time to have coffee or accept my help is really frustrating me!
This post has gotten long, but my question is, should I say something to her? I honestly feel that I’m the only one trying to make our friendship work at this point, and that she only asked me to be in the wedding to fill a spot. I don’t want to throw any more money into this to be treated like a place holder! Ugh, I’m so frustrated and hurt by the whole situation. HELP!