- 3 years ago
Bees, I know it’s awful but I am so frustrated with my best friend. I posted a few weeks ago about how they were engaged within four weeks of meeting, and want their wedding to be in another four weeks. Last Saturday, the other maid of honor and I went shopping with the bride to pick out bridesmaid dresses. Because of the time crunch, she ended up deciding on a $200 dress, and required us to order them that day since they were the only ones that would arrive in time. I fit into one and bought it off the rack, and went ahead on the alterations on it.
Well, the bride and her fiancé have been arguing a lot this week…
I have been getting frustrated with my friend, since she keeps calling me (daily) to tell me about wedding planning, and she keeps doing stupid things. For example, she ordered the invitations and booked the hotels for a date, without making sure the venue was available (when we told her it was a terrible idea, she said she was “hoping for the best”). It wasn’t available, of course. When she found out, I got an hour long complainfest about how frustrated and overwhelmed she was, since everything kept going wrong. Also, she keeps telling me how mad she is that he isn’t “sure” of the date, and isn’t “sure” if he is ready, etc. Last night, I had a good heart to heart with her about how if he isn’t ready, she shouldn’t force him. (I should mention she has a toddler, and has already made her start calling him daddy… within two weeks of meeting him. I am wondering if this is part of why she wants everything so rushed) She seemed to take my input gracefully, and went on to tell me more red flags about how he won’t communicate with her about anything, she doesn’t feel like he listens to her, etc. I cautioned her more about how she doesn’t seem to know him well enough and maybe waiting would be a good move. She thanked me for my advice, and that was that.
WELL, today she texted me to tell me that they have decided to skip the wedding and just get married! She said that since “they fight so much about the wedding, they decided it was best not to have one”. My opinion is that if they can’t even work out something as simple as a wedding date together, I am seriously worried for the rest of their relationship, especially with a child thrown into the mix. She is in her late twenties, he is in his early thirties, yet both have been exhibiting selfish, childish tendencies. I support my friend, but she hasn’t been acting like herself lately.
And lastly, being selfish for a second, I am extremely annoyed they decided to cancel this wedding a week after she had us buy unreturnable bridesmaid dresses, and after we already paid to alter them. $240 for a dress to wear to a wedding that isn’t even happening, and is custom fit to my body so I’m not sure if I can resell it. I just needed to vent. I haven’t replied to her message about skipping the wedding yet, because I don’t even know what to say.
Thanks for reading, Bees!