- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
So my husband just traded his truck in for a brand new car- a manual. Which I fully encouraged him to do– and was enthusiastic about learning how to drive a stick.
I’ve had a handfull of “lessons”– and today we went out again, but in an area where there are roads, so I could actually practice *real* driving.
So I’m moving along, and intend to shift into 3rd, but accidently move it into 5th. Not too big of a deal– but my husband nicely pointed it out, and I went to shift into 3rd (we were in a residential area, so I wasn’t cruising fast)– but then I accidently (AGAIN!) shifted into 1st. Obviously, the car didn’t like that. And that was where I gave up– which was about 5 minutes into today’s session. This is a brand new car– and we don’t know anyone who owns an older car I can practice on.
My husband is super cool about it all– he doesn’t get upset, and tried to take blame, saying he should have had me practice moving through all the gears before drivin for real– since all of my other lessons have consisted of starting, stopping, 1st and 2nd.
I have killed the car SO many times– and now messed with it while driving (by accident, of course)– and the car has less than 300 miles on it. It frustrated me enough that I decided I was done– and I’m not going to learn– at least not on this car…..which means I won’t be learning in the forseeable future.
My husband is super paid back about things– and while I understand killing it a few times won’t absolutely kill the car– it’s BRAND NEW, and I don’t want to ruin it. So I took my key to his car off my keychain and called it quits.
But now I’m super pissed at myself– mostly because I was the one who encouraged him to get it. If I had a sincere concern and asked him not too, he absolutely would not have gotten the car.
We share everything- but I *really* don’t like making a car payment on a vehicle that I am unable to drive. I have been car payment free my entire life (always paid in full for my cars!) and he has been payment free for over a year. One car died on Christmas night, so we’ve had a payment since January. And obviously we’ve added a second payment as of a week ago for this car.
I’m fully aware I’m being a *poor sport*—— and this is mostly just a vent.
Just kicking myself for encouraging him, and while we sure can sell this car or trade it in a couple years– it’s not something that’s smart to do now.