Post # 1
The basics: The receptionsist’s father passed away so I am helping to cover her work, answering phones and sorting mail and all that. We got a stack of magazine type ads with no names, so I was unsure of who to send them to. Since it’s not time-sentitive, I was going to leave it for her to throw out or whatever she normally does. A coworker came up and saw the pile and asked “did we not sort this whole pile?” and proceeded to date stamp and throw away most of it. She has a long history of being extremely rude to everyone, but she doesn’t like me in particular. After she was done (less than 1 minute of “work”), she put the date stamper on my desk and walked away quipping “thank you, youre welcome” over her shoulder at me. She then proceeded to talk loudly with another woman about how rude and ignorant I am, and how if her kids never said thank you they’d get their mouths washed out with soap. Maybe I should have said thank you, but I don’t feel like it was really warranted. She didn’t help ME with anything, and she had a nasty attitude start to finish. I don’t know how to deal with this woman. Part of me wants to start thanking her for EVERYTHING, but she’s the type that would scream in my face (she has a history of bad behavior). HR is meaningless, she’s been reported many times and her seniority means it gets brushed under the rug. People are also just plain afraid of her. Nobody wants to say anything because she will get in their face and try to humiliate them. Also, important note, I’m a very polite person. I always say my please and thank yous when needed, but I avoid doing so in situations like that because it cheapens the meaning. I also have a lot of trouble faking nice to a person actively being rude and giving me dirty looks. Thoughts?
Post # 2
All I can say is ignore her.
I had a similar problem where a coworker I literally had NEVER HAD A CONVERSATION WITH and worked in a different wing than me created horrible, random rumors about me. I didn’t even hear about them until a friend at work approached me. Conversation went like this:
Friend: “Hey I heard this about you…”
Me: “Wtf are you talking about?”
Friend: “So-and-so has been saying that.”
Me: “Who is so-and-so?”
(It was my first year at this job, I literally didn’t even know who this person was)
My advice, ignore it. Ignorance is bliss. Now when I see this person I literally refuse to look at them and hope that whatever tomfoolery she is cooking up I never hear about and nobody takes seriously.
Post # 3
Just smile and ignore it. Commenting back will do nothing, giving in will give them power and by just ignore you don’t play into it. I know it sucks though 🙁
Post # 4
Damn, sounds like a no-win situation. What a bitch. Guess all you can do is ignore it. I have never understood how rude people do not get fired.
Post # 5
I’m a pretty fiery person and I don’t tolerate anyone’s bs. I had a co-worker who was constantly putting work on my desk that was actually her job so I finally put it on her desk and said, “if you don’t do YOUR job then there won’t be a reason to keep you around any longer” that shut her up for a while. <br /><br />In your case I’d probably TRY to kill her with kindness. I say try because that’s probably not how things would end up and I would probably start piling all the magazines on her desk with a note saying “Thanks for helping out, I SO appreciate it. Keep up the good work (:”
Post # 6
HR can and should do something about this, no one has that much seniority. If she is horrible to everyone, you can others should begin a paper trail of complaints.These can be emails to co-workers for advice, supervisors or directly to HR. Basically anything that can be timestapped and dated counts. Copies of the emails should be presented to HR as well as the companys conduct policy of which you must be able to argue that she is violating. If these emails/complaints prove that she has violated company policy, then HR has to act on it- whether in the form of a warning, suspension or termination. If you wish to remain anonymous, I would also check to make sure that there is a whistleblower policy to protect yourself and others involved from being identified.