- 5 years ago
Two posts in one day! Thank you bees for helping a girl out!
So both my future hubby and I know we want a small wedding – like immediate family small.
So that puts us at parents (4) siblings (3+1 fiance) grandparents (3) and someone to travel with my grandmother because she can’t travel well on her own, will probably be one of my aunts (1)
So we’re at 12 people.
Great. We love it.
But……my fiance desperately want’s his one aunt there. She’s super nice (we’re very close) and his godmother. It’s really imporant to him. I understand.
So I thought…well maybe we’ll invite her and her husband and child. And we can invite a really close cousin of mine and his wife and his child.
So now we’re up to 18 people. Also great!
But now we feel kind of guilty because he has another aunt that he’s pretty close with and we think she would feel bad about not being invited.
But I know that we can’t invite just her and her husband and her kids. My mom’s already pretty upset that we’re not having a big wedding. Even if we did just aunt and uncles and and no cousins over babysitting age we’d be over 50 people. I know a lot of people think that’s small but we just don’t want it that big.
We want to get married, have a nice dinner at a restaurant, and call it a day. We’ve been together for almost 10 years and the way we see it this is just another step in our relationship and we do not want to throw a party for other people. And yes, we think a wedding is a party for other people.
But if we invited this second aunt, we would have to invite someone from my side of the family….and there’s no one we could invite without inviting all the aunts and uncles. We would have to invite someone from my side because my mom’s already upset over the wedding, I’m breaking from my culture by having a small wedding as it is, and etc.
We’ve talked with his mom about this and she said it’s fine, just invite the one aunt….but we’re going for Easter and I’m dreading explaining to the other aunt that she will not be invited. So that means to me that I’m doing something wrong because if it wasn’t wrong, I wouldn’t be dreading it. (he has other aunts and uncles by the way that neither of us care about inviting).
So what should we do? (my fiance feels bad but is not worried like I am)