(Closed) Super TMI post…need advice

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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1128 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

hmm…that makes things a little limited. You could ask him if he will at least give toys another chance, if he sees how much you enjoy it, you would think he would be all for it! Have him trim his nails? …it doesn’t sound like hes willing to do much, which isn’t fair to you, so a talk is def in order! Good luck 🙂

Post # 4
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

hmmm…. i think you are going to have to have a chat about what feels good for you. Sex is no fun if you arn’t aroused.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Make him file his nails and initiate the foreplay yourself. I can’t imagine that he would just lie there while you give him head. Hopefully, he’d at least touch you in some way!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Well for start, I’d ask him to trim his nails, because yeah that can hurt! Have you told him that sex is painful because there’s no foreplay? That could go a long way in getting him more open about it, because hopefully he doesn’t want you to be in pain! Probably TMI, but whatever, you asked, but how about your breasts/nipples? Always a good spot for me, but I know some don’t like it.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Have him trim his nails. Ouch!

Can you guys maybe watch some porn together if he won’t do oral or won’t play with toys? Just because he won’t use the toys on you doesn’t mean you can’t use them on yourself first to get in to the mood. He may like the view 😉

[EDIT] Hey, you said that it’s just sex. Is there any passion like kissing or anything during sex? Sorry to get to involved, but if there isn’t anything like that there may be a deeper issue and I think I talk would be in order.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Don’t have sex with him until he gives you some attention? 🙂 And for the love of Pete, have him file his nails!

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@ssttpp:  This guy needs a talking to, hon or the sex life is going to suffer…I can’t believe he doesn’t even like watching you use them.

Post # 12
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484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Would he be interested/ would you be comfortable having him watch you arouse yourself? I second what a PP said about foreplay including attention to your breasts. Kissing, dirty talk… there are lots of options but I would still advise talking to your man about needing to better attend to you. Sex is so uncomfortable if you’re not aroused, and that’s hardly fair to you! 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@ssttpp:  No matter how short his nails are, I always feel like I’m getting scratched. I don’t know how to avoid that 🙁


Can he lube a latex glove? Not very sexy, but better than getting scratched 🙁

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Wow…. you really need to put your foot down on this one. and if he is scratching you….he is doing it wrong…

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