Post # 16
techmom : I’m glad you were able to decide what’s best for your family without guilt! The beautiful thing about breastfeeding is that it isn’t all or nothing – if you want to keep nursing for some feeds you can! I had the opposite problem as you (severe under supply and we had to formula supplement for the first few weeks while my boobs got with the program) and formula is a wonderful tool when you need or want it.
Post # 17
I’m still EP and I’ll probably wean when LO is 15 months in a few weeks and I feel guilty about that for whatever reason! I think mom guilt just has a way of finding you no matter what. I’m all for doing whatever makes things easier on you. Nothing at all wrong with formula and if it means more sleep, then oh hell yes I’d be aboard that train in 5 seconds flat.
Post # 18
TheGridMonster : Exactly! Mom guilt creeps in wherever possible, thanks mostly to other moms. I have been considering doing some formula supplementing because my son is a shit sleeper, basically around 2.5/3 months he went from long stretches of good sleep to up 4x+ a night, every night. We literally *JUST* experienced some relief from it, and he’s 6.5 months old now so for months on end– my husband and I have been up, sometimes hourly, for days on end with my son.
I took him to the doctor to see what was wrong with him (nothing), we’ve done a few CIO methods like Ferber and timing cry sessions, which has helped some but isn’t the magic bullet. Spent countless $$ on sleepsacks designed to help with sleep, done various regimented daytime feeding and nap schedules and ya know what?? The little stinker just does what he wants sometimes, it’s almost like he has his own personality and preferences that change
All that to say, I posted in a local FB group about supplementing with formula and got ripped a new one by several moms. Also was private messaged by a friend of mine scolding me for wanting a decent nights sleep because my baby needs me 24/7 and “just co-sleep!!!”
So– I think now as a mom, it is so cliche but unless someone is doing something *actually* harmful, I keep my big, fat, opinionated mouth shut because sanctimoms are honestly the worst of the worst in society to each other.
OP– I know you said the decision was made so GOOD FOR YOU. I would pop a formula filled bottle in their mouth and not look back if that’s what you want to do and what will save some sanity.
Post # 19
Girrllll do the formula. I know people say things like “there is no evidence that formula babies sleep better” – but I think for some babies it really does help. I have a friend whose EBF baby was sleeping terribly for months on end…until she started supplementing with formula for that last feed of the night. The baby suddenly started sleeping much better. I don’t think that was a coincidence!
And even if your baby doesn’t sleep any better, formula feeding means your huusband can help too with night feeds, so YOU will be getting better sleep, and that is critical.
As far as the whole breastfeeding vs. formula debate is concerned, I think it’s really unfortunate that in our grandparents’ and many of our parents’ days, breastfeeding was not at all encouraged. Clearly there are great benefits from breastfeeding. But at this point, I think the pendulum has swung too far in the opposite direction, to the point that moms who even consider using the F word are villainized as selfish or bad parents. Fed is best!!!
Post # 20
techmom : Despite all the hype, the benefits of breastmilk are overexaggerated relative to their actual benefits. Not to say its bad, but formula is not some terrible option. You are doing a great job and supplementing/switching to formula will not harm her. Do whatever works for you and your family.
Both my kids were preemies. My son never nursed and I pumped for about 6 weeks so he had breastmilk for maybe 8 weeks. My daughter was born a few weeks later and eventually nursed and kept Bfing until 13 months. Sometimes life gets in the way of our plans, thats ok. Just keep moving forward 🙂
Post # 21
It sounds like she has acid reflux, among possibly other issues but the throat congestion and pulling away. We have meds for this and it helped a lot.
Post # 22
LilliV : TheGridMonster : fromatoz : tiffanybruiser :
Thanks for the support and advice, mommas! We’ve begun supplementing a teensy bit, as we are also working through introducing the bottle to baby. In the meanwhile, the oversupply has resolved itself. Things are nowhere near optimal yet but we are slowly getting there. 🙂
Scarlett11 : Looks like we all just had bad colds and that was at least partially to blame for our issues. She was probably not very hungry during the worst of the cold, which seemed like an oversupply issue. No struggling now thankfully!
Post # 23
SLOBee : Thanks for sharing your experience! I’m glad things worked well and with a bit of time, I hope I get there too. Babies are hard! 🙂
feedthebeags : Pumping is looking more like a possibility given that the last few times I pumped, I didn’t end up with an insane hypersupply. And while formula may not provide longer sleep, it’s hugely liberating to me that I’ve decided not be doctrinaire about breastfeeding this time around. I embracing the ‘fed is best’ philosophy, which was previously something I’d tell others but was extremely hesitant to try for myself. 🙂
Post # 24
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techmom : I know I’m a little late to the game but I second the block feeding! I had a lot of milk (exclusively breastmilk via nursing and pumping until 10.5 months) and I found that block feeding worked best for my son because he was a fast and efficient nurser. If I timed the feed, he would switch before getting that fatty hindmilk and green poos and fussy baby would result. I actually block fed the WHOLE time!
I supplemented with formula at 10.5 months when my supply tanked and switched completely at 11 months. It was wonderfully freeing! Fed is best! Congrats on your amazing achievement of being a mommy and know that whatever food choice you make will be perfect!
Post # 25
OP, just wanted to share my experience recently as someone who struggled with EBF and now uses formula.
I had a really hard time getting into a breastfeeding rhythm. I wanted to EBF so badly. I went to a class before birth, read everything I could before baby came, bought all these cute cover ups… despite this effort, we struggled so much in the hospital even with the help of the nurses and lactation consultants.
The first night home was so bad that it left he and I in tears. I was so sleep deprived from my birth experience and the days leading up to it (long story) that it was a perfect storm for a meltdown on my part. I was so defeated and was having some serious baby blues…i was not in a good place mentally.
My mom brought the formula over at 3 AM that night and reassured me that I was not a failure at being a mom just bc breastfeeding wasn’t working out. Baby needed to eat.
We now do both formula mostly and I still pump a few times a day so he gets a few bottles of breastmilk a day. This works for us.
I admit that I still feel guilty and like I am missing out on something, even though I know that having a fed baby who is thriving is the goal. I wish the “breast is best” message would have a few more disclaimers so as to not set moms up to feel like failures. We are tough enough on ourselves as it is.
Post # 26
Not to threadjack, but maybe consider talking to your pediatrician about night weaning. That was the magic bullet for my terrible sleeper. Ped gave me the ok at 6 months but I waited until 9 months because mom guilt and those darn Facebook groups. After night weaning and a week of sleep training and she’s been a good sleeper ever since (besides teething). Hang in there Mama and do what you need to do to get some sleep and don’t feel guilty!