(Closed) …. support? advise? Encouragement?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1982 posts
Buzzing bee

Ahhh. well, at least you got that awkwardness out of the way now. If she brings it up again, just tell her you’re rethinking other ideas… maybe she’ll be quiet!

PS-I am sure it was annoying, but it’s nice that she lets you work on that stuff at work.

Post # 5
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925 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

You know what gets on my nerves.. people saying what you should and shouldn’t do based on how THEY feel.  I don’t give a bbbeeppp about how you feel about what I’m doing..mind ya bidness that’s all just mind ya bidness!  How does she know you’ll regret it?? whatever, I have someone at work who does the same thing about waiting to have kids ” wait as long as possible, we waited 5 years” me: but you got married when you were like.. 22..right? “yeah, we married young.” me: ok.. well, I’m 26.. we won’t be waiting that long. MIND YOUR BUSINESS! lolol 

Post # 6
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888 posts
Busy bee

don’t listen!  you won’t regret doing what you want to do!!  just smile and say “okay i’ll think about it” and then go back to your original plans!

Post # 7
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555 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You’ll regret it? Probably not you might feel bad about not including your parents if you’re close if not then it doesn’t matter right? Everyone has their opinions some people just feel it necessary to impose them on others. Do what’s best for you, the only thing I would suggest is regarding your parents is it important to have them there will it be very hurtful to them to not be included (do you care). other than that, have a great day enjoy your private moment and celebrate with everyone after the fact. One of my best friends did this, he’s gay and in order to get married in California before they overturned the law he and his partned got married without anyone there and had a small ceremony later (15 minutes) followed by a HUGE party with everyone there and NO ONE cared. I think more people will be happy for you than not, you might hit some bumps but if you’re prepaired then you’re ready. Enjoy and good luck, stick to your guns and happily thank people for trying to help you with their unsolicitied advice because they really are just trying to help (even though it is kinda of annoying). You can’t make everyone happy so just make yourself happy!

Post # 10
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1032 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

just tell her “listen…I know you have an opinion but it’s starting to bother me that you keep saying it when you know how I feel. I already told you that I know what I want to do, so please stop trying to convince me that I am making a mistake”

Post # 12
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3041 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

… one option could be to have a laid back reception later on witha potluck & use that same wedding photographer & wearing your wedding outfits. no pressure, low cost, just some fun with friends & family. idk if that’s an option thou?

OR you can say hey we want to throw a random picnic, invite everyone to the park, that would be like an hour or few hours after the wedding & show up married & with your photographer?

that’s only if you’re wanting to share the day with others. i’m sorry, its super hard not being able to say anything… you have us here thou :).

Post # 13
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1982 posts
Buzzing bee

Just share your plans with us! Or make an anonymous twitter and tweet your “updates” to get them out there… hehe.

Post # 16
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3041 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

what about the 20 people who are coming to your reception? can you share your excitement with them? private FB messages between you & the girls that know? if you’re regretting not telling them now, that’s something to consider. i’m not gonna say “hey you’ll regret it!” cause you may not! i like your idea, small, simple & not a crazy big deal. i mean it is super important! i have to have a 200 person wedding cause my Fiance knows too many people & i get super stage fright. i envy your wedding in a way! its you & your Fiance day, so enjoy your engagement time. maybe talk it over w your Fiance, its super hard to keep in overflowing excitement!

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