- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2014
I might sound odd to some people, but I’ve never known what it felt like to be liked by my SO’s family. I’m not a bad person by any means. I’m a well-mannered, classy girl who comes from a loving family. I’m not perfect whatsoever, but I know that I’m a good person with good intentions.
The problem all started with my ex-fiance’s family. At first I simply settled for the fact that they were just anti-social people which isn’t a foreign concept. Some people just like to keep to themselves and don’t like big crowds. My family is the complete opposite. We love spending time with our friends, at huge parties and galas dancing the night away and just having a good time, but not everyone is like that and I understand that. Even so, I couldn’t keep denying the fact that something was wwrong with my ex-FI’s family. Whenever I was over their house they rarely spoke to me let alone looked at me and when we got engaged it got even worse. His family DIDN’T show up to our engagement party and refused to let me into their house. I believe that the lack of support from his side contributed some to our breaking up. Yes while I understand that the imporant thing is our feelings about one another, I AM a family oriented girl and family is very important to me so I simply could not stomach the fact that his family hated me for no apparent reason it seemed. I always came baring gifts, homemade cooking, desserts, flowers, and did my best to help out whenever I was invited into their home for celebrations but none of it did any good.
Fast forward to the present. I met SO’s family after only a few weeks of dating him. His sister was having a New Year’s party at her home and he had invited me.To say that I was nervous was an understatment. I must have gone through at least 10 outfits before I made my final selection. I wanted to look perfect, but not like I was trying to hard to impress because I still wanted to be myself.
Right from the getgo they accepted me in with open arms and I quickly felt at home. I felt liked and respected and it was such a foreign concept to me considering what I had been through in my previous relationship. I really felt like I was part of their family and I came home with happy tears in my eyes because I couldn’t believe that I was finally getting everything that I was hoping for. A great SO with an amazing family. These days his mom calls me almost on a daily basis just to see how I’m doing and how work is going and so on and so forth.
Here’s the kicker though.
In my previous relationship I don’t even think that my ex-FI told his family that we were engaged until after the fact. He told me that he had told them that he was planning to propose but their shocked reaction to us having an engagement party told me otherwise which I believe almost caused them to resent me even more because perhaps they thought I was making him go behind their backs. Honestly, I don’t know what their deal was and I don’t really care anymore at this point.
In my previous blog posts I wrote about SO and I going ring shopping and then selecting the perfect ring and then him actually purchasing it. Well as you might have already guessed I was absolutely beside myself with excitement so I ran home to tell my parents and they were very excited as well. Little did I know that SO had told his folks as well. He told me last night over dinner that he told his mom that he had purchased my E-Ring and I felt my heart stop. So I asked him..
“What did she say? How did she react??”
I couldn’t help but bombard him with questions because I was so nervous. Yes they adored me but even so, an engagement is a big deal BUT to my absolute surprise he told me that his mother couldn’t be happier. He told me that she congratulated him and told him, and I quote…
“It’s about time you thought about proposing to this girl!!!”
I almost cried happy tears. It was probably one of the happiest moments of my life. I know that we had support from his side of the family, something that I have never been able to experience. I mean….that means THE WORLD to me. And then SO said…
“I think I made the right choice…” in choosing to marry me.
To which I responded…
“Of course you did!”
Oh yeah, we’ve got jokes!
Seriously though have any of your bees been in my situation? How did you cope??? How did you react???