(Closed) Supporting a Rape Victim

posted 4 years ago in Wellness
Post # 2
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2251 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Omg,  I’m so sorry! This is just a terrible and unspeakable crime he committed, and it still affecting your life so many years afterwards.  I think you both need to see a therapist regularly to learn how to cope and move on. I dont know any online resources,  but you can ask the doctor you’re seeing  about legit online help.  Big huge hugs to you and your sister.  Stay strong. 

Post # 3
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11574 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

jss77:  RAINN.org has resources for supporting victims but you are also going through a trauma yourself, of having to absorb this horrible news about your father. you can call RAINN and talk to someone and they might be able to direct you to local resources. 

Im so sorry for what you are going through and what your sister endured.

Post # 4
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901 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I’m sorry, Bee. I personally do not know what you are going through but there are many others who can. Unfortunately this is not as uncommon as we would all like to think. I am sure you will find a good support group for this and they will give you a tremendous amont of help. I also agree you should get some kind of counseling. Maybe even some type of grief counseling. Hugs to you Bee. 

Post # 5
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4065 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I really think this is something you need to work through with counselling. ..it’s way bigger than what a bunch of women on a wedding board can help with. I wish for peace for you and your family. Good luck.

Post # 7
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4052 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

jss77:  i am so sorry about this traumatic experience UR family is dealing with. I really don’t have much advice but @balletparker gave u a good resource.. I will pray for UR sister and family.. So terrible Bee 😔

Post # 8
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2663 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

jss77:  I’m so very sorry for the actions of your father. You both need therapy to help you process what happened. Sexual abuse suffered at the hands of someone who is supposed to be trusted to love and protect you is an horrific and harrowing crime. Please talk to your doctor about this and find a psychologist to discuss these issues.

As for interactions with your sister, she just needs to know that you’re entirely supportive of her and let it be clear that none of what happened was her fault. She may not want to talk about it to you which is fine but she must talk to a professional in order to find ways to cope. 

You haven’t really mentioned your mother, I wonder how she’s dealing with this. It’s such a complex issue. Your sister will have wanted to protect you and not cause trouble, your relationship and memories of your father will all change irrevocably and your mother will feel guilty that she didn’t notice and will judge herself for marrying a man who could do such a thing.

It’s okay to not be okay. Take care of one another. X

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