- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
My Fiance and I are getting married at a California Mission, and we are both Cathloic–but we both strongly believe in marriage equality and want to do something to show our support of it at our wedding. We obviously can’t say anything during the ceremony, but we were thinking of wearing white knot bracelets and leaving out a bowl of white knot pins (whiteknot.org) for guests to wear if they want to show their support. Also we were considering including this quote in our program from the Massachusetts Supreme Court decision to legalize same-sex marriage:
Marriage is a vital social institution. The exclusive commitment of two individuals to each other nurtures love and mutual support.
Civil marriage is at once a deeply personal commitment to another human being and a highly public celebration of the ideals of mutuality, companionship, intimacy, fidelity, and family. Because it fulfils yearnings for security, safe haven, and connection that express our common humanity, civil marriage is an esteemed institution and the decision whether and whom to marry is among life’s momentous acts of self-definition.
It is undoubtedly for these concrete reasons, as well as for its intimately personal significance, that civil marriage has long been termed a “civil right.” Without the right to choose to marry one is excluded from the full range of human experience.
We wouldn’t be “in your face” with any of it. It would all be subtle enough so that those who would appreciate it would understand, and those who wouldn’t, shouldn’t get offended.
This really means a lot to both of us but our main concern is that we will look like hypocrites trying to send this message after getting married in a Catholic Church, and that it will just be offensive to those whom we are trying to support.
Any opinions or suggestions? Or any other ideas on how to show support for marriage equality at your wedding? I’d appreciate any advice! Thanks!