What about finding a job with flexible schedules and taking night classes? It’s pretty easy to do (finding a job is the tough part! Or waiting tables and doing morning classes?), depending on what you’re going to school for. One of my coworkers works full time here in the lab and is working on his engineering degree. Surviving on only one income isn’t the easiest to do (i did it for 6 months and I did not like it at all). Or, since you work full time, he has your benefits, which is key, and he can work part time and take on more classes. Some of the community colleges near me have weekend classes, too. Yes you’re in class on Saturdays or Sundays, but you also are done in like, 8 weeks and then you can move on to another class. Taking prerequisites at a community college would be your most affordable option. I know, for me, i live in the “district” and they are only $249/class. Totally affordable! But the same class at the nearby university is about $1500. Some universities aren’t a fan of having prerequisite courses, but most state colleges don’t mind, provided you get good grades. If he did the weekend courses, he could keep doing what he’s doing now (construction)….i imagine construction pays better but is less steady work? not sure.
What does he want to do, career-wise? What is he going to school for? Those are also big things to consider, because you want it to be somewhat flexible, not to mention be enough to drastically increase earning potential, plus be something he wants to do.
When my husband got out of the army in november, i was bugging him about getting a job. I think the clincher was in april, when i finally told him that all this sitting around just made me feel he was being lazy and a mooch, that he was taking for granted the fact that I was supporting him when he was perfectly capable of working and wasn’t even trying. I told him it was hard on me, and i was starting to resent him for what he wasn’t doing. And i reminded him that he wasn’t “too good” to take a lower paying job, that i thought that was the most ridiculos thing I’d ever heard. He literally didn’t want a job that paid under 50K, which was still a big pay cut for him out of the Army, but that just put more pressure on ME, not to mention cut the amount of money i was able to save (i started saving for a car and if he wasn’t working, it was hurting that goal). A frank discussion fixed it for us, and my husband ended up taking a lower paying job. But it’s a job. In fact, somebody on this board told me it’s easier to get a job once you have a job and that’s stuck in my head. Plus, Darling Husband kept saying, “i have X in the bank, we’re fine” and he just didn’t GET IT. I think once he saw the money slowly going down, he finally got it.
I guess I just didn’t feel like it was an equal partnership if my husband was hanging around the house all day and I was taking care of everything financially. I didn’t feel like we were on the same level; i felt like i was taking care of him And i hated that. especially since i’d come home to a messy house or dinner wasn’t done. Know what your expectations are of each other. I don’t think I would’ve had as many issues with Darling Husband not working if i felt he was “contributing” sufficiently. BUt it’s stressful being the only one paying the bills. It would piss me off when I’d pay all the bills and then Darling Husband would go out to lunch and use his savings for that. It just didn’t seem fair. So, i feel ya =]. When you’re a student, I think you just take what you can to bring some cash in. Anything is better than nothing!