(Closed) Suprise Wedding

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

If you’ve planned an engagement party, and are planning a wedding (however secret) how are you not engaged to be married? Has he just not done the official down on one knee thing yet?

That said, I’ve never heard of a surprise wedding? Can you explain?

Post # 4
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274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Never been to a surprise wedding, and the only one I’ve heard of is Julia Roberts and Danny Moder.  They had a surprise wedding for their guests at a BBQ party.  I thought it was sweet!

Danny Moder and Julia Roberts Wedding

Post # 5
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542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

My cousin did a surprise wedding and it was a huge hit! No one even knew they were engaged. It was really cute. They didn’t tell anyone but the officiant, not parents or anyone. They had a bunch of people over for a house warming party for their new house and had a cocktail-style party in their backyard. They had everyone sit down at their tables, and at each of the place settings was an envelope with a card in it that said: “you have been cordially invited to the wedding of so and so” with the date listed as that date.

They went and stood at the front of everyone and the officiant came out and did the wedding. Afterward they had dinner and dancing. Pretty cute! Wish I would have thought of it! lol. 

I totally say go for it! I think it is a really fun and unique idea especially for a couple like you guys who clearly just want to have a small and quiet event as it is. Good luck!

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@suprise84: Ooh I love that! The only thing I would worry about is people not showing up because it’s “just and engagement party” and then missing the wedding and being bummed.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@WithoutWax: I think by suprise wedding they mean that they will invite the guests to an engagement party and the SURPRISE!! it’s acutually a wedding.

I think it’s a great idea, and have thought about it a lot myself. I don’t really have any advice for you, but good luck 🙂

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@suprise84:  Teehee!  We were in a similar situation, where Fiance and I talked about getting married, but weren’t public about it except for a very few select friends.  We waited until he got the e-ring and proposed did we make the announcement.  It IS fun to keep some things secret!

Post # 10
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562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think it’s an awesome, fun, memorable idea! No one will forget it, and it’ll give you plenty of stories. Are you still wearing a wedding gown/him in a tux? I think it would be great if you went all out, just held it at your house and had your best friend and his best friend dressed as your BM/GM. Everyone would be confused when they see how well decorated everything is and that your BM/GM are dressed up.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I have to wonder though, what if some people who may have rearranged their schedules to attend your wedding, but are busy the night of your engagement party, don’t show? They may be thinking “Oh, well it’s just the engagement party, I’ll definitely be there for the wedding…” :/ Just something to keep in mind.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I went to one which was on New Year’s Eve. The couple were living together and hosted the party every year.

 The difference was that on this night, at 11:30 they announced they would be married. The wedding took place at 11:45. He claims it was to get the tax deduction for the full year!

People loved it. We sent a gift a few days later.

Post # 14
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686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think it’s a fun idea in theory, but I would worry about people not coming because it’s “just an engagement party”….but if you’re okay with some people not coming then do it!  I would LOVE to be surprised like that as a guest, it would definitely be memorable!   Also, you noted that you wanted to do this because you didn’t want all the planning agony, but won’t you still be planning quite a bit?

Post # 16
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510 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

AAaaaa i love the idea of surprise weddings!!  🙂  Good luck!

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