(Closed) sure i’ll be your bridesmaid . .

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

In short, you shouldn’t have said yes. Explain to your cousin that you want her wedding to be fabulous, and you don’t think that you will have the time or money to be a fabulous bridesmaid. And it is A LOT of time and money. I suspect on average about $200. She might work something out for you where she picks inexpensive dresses or pays for stuff or doesn’t expect you to participate. But it is very important that you let her know as soon as possible. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I was in this exact same situation a couple years ago! My cousin also picked me to be her bridesmaid and although we don’t see eachtoher a lot (just Christma asnd birthdays) we are the closest cousin (emotionally and geographically) we have to eachother. She older than I am and lot of her bridal party were people 8-10 years older than I was. I was 21 at the time and they were all in their late 20’s early 30’s. I felt so out of place and awkward the entire time. I always kept asking her to help and she would just say that there wasn’t much to do. Anyways, I was completely lost anyhow because I was young and had never been in a wedding party before. The reason I think she picked me as a bridesmaid is because she only had 2 female friends and wanted a large wedding party- she ended up having 6 girls. I will most likely pick her for mine as well, all the wrong reasons (terrible I know) mainly because she picked me so I feel like I should return the favour and also to help eliminate drama from picking between my group of highschool friends (which I might have to do anyways if I decide I want more than 3 bridesmaids.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i agree – you shouldnt have said yes. and if it helps, the average for the weddings ihave been in for the last few years have been $1000…. not $200. the lowest one was $300, and the highest was abou 3500 (that was a destination one) but weddings arent cheap.

if you dont want to do it or dont feel close to her, then tell her so and say that you dont want to drag her down. offer to help throw a shower or something later maybe?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

ahhh – well in that case – sit down and talk to her and find out what her expectations are for her BM’s – that way theres no surprises, or dissapointments. at least then you will know what she wants???

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