(Closed) SURPRISE!

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Hostess
11177 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

That is a really good question. My DH was dead set on the actual proposal being a surprise, even though we designed the ring together and I knew it was coming. He made me wait nearly two months before he finally popped the question just to keep me on my toes.

Post # 4
Member
945 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I loved that it was a surprise and had no idea it was coming..and I love that he felt the same way.

Post # 5
Member
7610 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@EffieTrinket:  Dude, I don’t get it etiher.  Some people just seem to like it that way I guess!

Post # 6
Member
383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My SO and I agreed that we’re “racing to the proposal”…  Whoever proposes first “wins” (we’re very competitive).

We are aware that both of us are planning on proposing sometime between now and August, but we haven’t given each other an exact date either way.

Personally, I kinda want it to be a suprise.  I think knowing it’s going to happen soon is satisfying enough for me.

Post # 7
Member
1360 posts
Bumble bee

I think FI wanted it to be a surprise just because we had done everything else together; talked about marriage, and I helped him pick out the ring I wanted. I think he wanted that one part of the engagement to be really special for me.

I knew it was going to happen, just not when. Fortunately, I only had to wait a day after the ring arrived! (and I wasn’t expecting the proposal, considering I was wearing jeans and a t-shirt..without makeup.) Lol.

Post # 8
Member
1417 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You know what..I really wish it wasn’t a freakin suprise I want to know!!! NOW! LOL …Ok I had a few to many at the BBQ lol

Post # 9
Member
2609 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

according to my DH, because that’s “all they get”.  Its a stereotype, but for the most part the bride does the lion’s share of the wedding planning, and even if he’s involved, he’ll defer to her in the event of a difference of opinion, so he says the proposal is for him, and the wedding is for her.  He says the surprise factor is very very important, and most guys feeel really ripped off if thats taked away from them.  Before the mob starts… I REALIZE these are mass generalizations here, and every couple is different.

 

Post # 10
Member
1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

For my FI, I think he wanted to follow tradition and be “the man”.  lol  Plus, my FI loves surprises and to catch me off guard but my little sister has let it slip that he was ring shopping so he made sure I was thrown for a loop.  He paid careful attention to my jewelry (and ring size) and went to pick out the ering himself.

 @MissNoodles:  Exactly!  The FI loves when he gets to tell people about the proposal.

Post # 11
Member
500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

for my FI i think the proposal felt almost like a rite of passage for him. The engagement wasn’t a surprise, we decided on that together. But the proposal was something he wanted to do as a surprise and I wouldn’t have wanted to take that experience away from him. It basically served as the marker for when we would announce our engagement.

Post # 12
Member
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think its sweet when its a surprise. My DH said that he wanted to do it when he wanted to and pick the ring he wanted based on how well he knew me. He said please dont take that from me so I didnt. I dropped the subject and a few months later he proposed. 

He proposed when he was ready and he picked out the perfect ring for me. He did a great job, 🙂 

Post # 13
Member
1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think my SO feels like it has to be a surprise because that’s how it always is.  I’d much prefer the scenario OP described, but surprises aren’t exactly my thing.

Post # 14
Member
598 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@EffieTrinket:  You know, I have NO IDEA. 

While I like surprises I’d like a timeframe. 🙂 

I think for him its a traditional thing and him just wanting to be the man and all. 

Post # 15
Member
3668 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@EffieTrinket:  That’s a damn good question! I hate surprises. Luckily my SO knows this about me and has agreed to give me a one-month heads up before he proposes. Yay compromise 🙂

Post # 16
Member
14067 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ve always wondered the same thing about “surprise” proposals when the girl helps pick out the ring or knows he has it and is just waiting for it.  I’m like what’s the point, put the ring on and call it a day!  But then I started thing about the moment the proposal happens could still special.  Its like the walk down the isle after a ‘first look’.   I mean he already knew what I looked like and everything, we’d just been hanging out 15 minutes earlier, but it was still the moment that was special.  Maybe its the same sort of thing for a proposal?  I dont know, my proposal was a surprise and I had no idea he had the ring or was going to propose so soon.

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