Post # 1
So my girlfriend knows I am going to propose (info leaked), and is expecting it on our vacation. I want to keep it a surprise. I don’t want to do it earlier. Should I postpone and do it when we get back? or go ahead with it during our vacation? what is more important, location (beach) or surprise factor?
Thanks for the advice
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I think you should stick with your plan. If she already has info thinking it will happen during the vacation, and it doesn’t happen, then you may be in for one pouty/cranky girlfriend!
I don’t think location or surprise factor is important at all. It is the sentiment and that you are telling her she is the one for you and that you want her to be your wife, so i wouldn’t worry about those factors.
Post # 4
haha thanks! good point. I didn’t think about the disappointment part.
Post # 5
Stick with your plan of vacation or do it right before you leave. If you wait until you get home she will definitely be disappointed while on vacation. If you propose on vacation, keep in mind she will be expecting it every during every romantic moment.
I was completely expecting my Fiance to propose on vacation, but he knew it woulnd’t be a surprise. So he proposed a few days before we left and I was completely shocked.
ETA: Since he proposed right before vacation, it was almost like a mini-honeymoon. Definitely the best vacation we’ve had to date.
Post # 6
Make it a surprise on your VK. I am guessing/assuming she is expecting some GRAND gesture while on your VK….romantic dinner, romantic walk on the beach, etc. Instead, do it randomly or on a lesser grand scale, because no matter what, it will still be romantic! Or, better yet, do it before your VK. Maybe slip it into the suitcase you know she will be packing, etc…and then, spend the next X days in a romantic location relishing in your new status 🙂
I think for A LOT of woman, it is not about the where or the when, but for the fact that you two are engaged, and will spend the rest of your lives together as soon-to-be husband and wife. Good luck!
Post # 7
If you want it to be a surprise… do it right before the vacation! Then you can spend your vacation happily engaged!!
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I agree with doing it right before! Or the first day on vacation. It’s soooo fun to be on vacation while being newly engaged 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 9
I’d do it before so she won;t be expecting it! She also won’t ruin the vacation by being upset that it didn’t happen!
Post # 10
@cooldude: I totally get it that you want it to be a surprise. But I bet she’d be really let down and sad if it didn’t happen now. Maybe you could start telling people that you changed your mind about the timing of it since she found out (so that she will find out again that you changed your mind about the timing of it) and then you can actually surprise by still doing it?
Post # 11
I would do it right before you leave! That would throw her off 🙂
Post # 12
Do it before and then you can celebrate the whole time!! I wish my SO would do this before our vacation in January!
Post # 13
Thanks guys. I guess I’ll go with right before, or on the beach as planned. Tough decision!
Post # 14
Another vote for right before you leave. You could plan something on the way to the airport even. Maybe leave an extra hour early or something (claim the airline you’re taking requires an earlier check in OR you could suss and and note something you forgot to pick up before the trip and you want to get it before you go) and have whoever is driving you there detour to some either beautiful OR romantic OR sentimental for the 2 of you spot. (regardless you’d have to think of a way to distract her during the car ride so she doesn’t realize something’s up).. and pop the question there.
Or you could plan a way to do it AT the airport while you’re waiting for your flight. Just plan to get there early. You could call ahead (maybe to your airline) and see if they could help you set somethng special up. Like maybe see if they can rig it so she sets off the metal detector and they have to manually scan her. They could make her face the opposite direction to use the paddle thing. Then the security person could ask her to turn around (and they step out of the way) and you could be there on one kneee with the ring! 🙂
Then you get to spend your whole vacay in blissful excitement 🙂
Post # 15
Ooh! I have another idea!
Something you could set up with the airline. Make a video using your computer or a camera (and the help of a friend) and record yourself saying your shpiel of what you want to say to her and ask her to marry you. (I’ve seen one done in a movie theater where he video’d himself asking her fathers permission – their faces were out of the frame). Have them play it for the whole plane (on every screen and out loud like they do the safety video).
She will NOT expect that 😉
Post # 16
Great ideas! thanks NYlady