(Closed) Surprise baby

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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1401 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

You’re talking about an infant confined to a carrier or a parent… It’s not like adding this baby will mean there are kids running amuck. Id let it slide.  

Post # 3
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1301 posts
Bumble bee

I think people will understand. And if I were flying in to a wedding I would not be comfortable leaving my kid with a stranger.

Post # 4
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5154 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’d let it slide. If anyone asks, say the baby is too young to be away from mom and that they traveled far. 

Post # 6
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929 posts
Busy bee

As a mom of a six month old, I would be uncomfortable with leaving my lo with a stranger. Also, I’m still nursing. Granted, yes I can pump, but it is tough to bring all of that when traveling by plane (so much is already required for a baby!)

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

As others say, the child in question is an infant. No one will bat an eye–everyone understands that infants are in a different category than toddlers & kids in general, since they’re totally helpless and need their moms basically all the time. Just let her bring the baby. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

jfizzle:  I agree w/ PP I’d make up an excuse (maybe a private medical issue?) that means the baby can’t be seperated from the Mom and just let it slide. Annoying for you though.

 

Post # 10
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1634 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

jfizzle:  Nope! But, I wouldn’t bring my six year old to a wedding either, unless they were a direct niece/nephew of the bride or groom, had a very close relationship with bride/groom, etc. And, even then, I might want them there to see the ceremony, maybe part of the reception, and then off with a sitter. 

I think you get to invite who you want to invite. We had a formal wedding, that was in the evening, at a non-child friendly historic venue, with crystal candelabras, floor decor, open bar, black tie optional, live entertainment, etc., and with what I like to call “professional drinkers” in attendance. We did not invite children. The only underage people invited were nephews on my husband’s side and we invited the five year old daughter of people who would have flown in from across the country. Not only would it have been unreasonable to ask them to leave her behind, but leave her with whom? The rest of their extended family was also invited. 

And, infants are in a very different category, regardless. And, they are flying in. I think you are good!

Post # 11
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Busy bee

jfizzle:  I wouldn’t lie about it if anyone asked. If they are traveling, the baby gets to come along to the wedding. I mean, if I had a small baby and got invited to a wedding I needed to fly for and baby wasn’t welcomed, I would probably send a gift and decline the invite. But that’s just me. 

Post # 12
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1634 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

jfizzle:  PS: your wedding is in April- your cousin can’t find a sitter/make arrangments between now and then??? What about your brother’s girlfriend’s friend to babysit for your cousin?

 

Post # 14
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444 posts
Helper bee

I think there needs to be a different policy for long-distance-traveling guests with possibly still-nursing infants, as opposed to guests with older children. An older child has almost certainly been away from their parents for 6-8 hours (babysitting, preschool, kindergarten, etc.) or even maybe overnight with a family member, whereas leaving a 6-month-old a plane ride away for multiple days is an entirely different matter.

I’d let them bring the infant and just have the usher sit them on the aisle so if they need to make a quick exit with a fussing baby, it’s quick and easy.

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