Post # 1
ARGH! So my Maid/Matron of Honor has planned by bachelorette party in Vegas this weekend. I’m not a crazy, go wild girl (well, anymore at least) and I really just was looking forward to having a girls weekend with pool time, cocktails, a bit of dancing…seriously nothing crazy. I outlawed any tiaras, sashes, “i’m the bride” t-shirts or anything phalic hanging around my neck/on my person. To some, this may seem like no fun, but to me … it’s perfect! So I finally get some information about surprise activity planned for our night out. I’m 95% sure that it’s a pole dancing class. Now some girls might find this super fun and I’m pretty sure my girlfriends going with me will have a blast, but it’s really not my thing and I’m DREADING it. :o( My Maid/Matron of Honor should have known this would not be my cup of tea and I’m disappointed.
To top it off, we likely won’t finish till about 30 minutes before our dinner reservations, but I’m supposed drive back to our hotel and get ready for my big night out in record time. Those classes are more like a workout/you’re going to get sweaty/sore type thing. So, I’ll have about 20 minutes to shower/do my hair/makeup/get schnazzy to go out after this. That is NOT going to happen. I HATE being rushed when I’m trying to enjoy myself. I feel like I’m being a Bridezilla and I really want everyone to have a good time so I’m trying to suck it up and put on a happy face. Sorry for the vent…thanks for listening.
Post # 3
Don’t feel bad! I totally know how you feel. Well about part of it anyway. I also tried to refuse to wear any of that bachelorette crap (I hate that stuff) but was pretty much forced to even though I clearly said I did not want to do it. Some people love that stuff and really I didn’t mind wearing something out to the bar when we went dancing but I hated that they made me wear it in a nice restauarant. I don’t get that whole concept – it just made me feel uncomfortable.
As for the pole dancing stuff I get where you are coming from. You want to be able to enjoy your bachelorette party… I think if you let them know this then hopefully they will understand. I let my girls know that I just wanted to go out to dinner, then out to the bar for some drinking and dancing and thankfully they all were totally fine with that as well.
Post # 4
Hey, it’s okaaayy. Relax, because this could actually be fun. My bachelorette party involved a pole dancing class, and it was super super fun. It’s only you and your girls. Yes, I know, not your cup of tea. But, teachers for these classes can adjust the sauciness level and the difficulty level to your preference. You do not need to leave sweaty and gross. We all left still fresh at the end of the class.
Well, yes, it’s unfortunate that this is the surprise. If you are going to grin and bear, you might as well try your best to be open about it, and have fun.
If it will help, let people know you will be late to dinner, b/c you are going to schnazz up.
Post # 5
Can you just say to your Maid/Matron of Honor. “Look, I know you put alot of effort into this weekdnd and I love you for it. And please don’t take this the wrong way, but I really don’t have any interest in pole dancing. It doesn’t sound very relaxing to me. Anyway we can skip that part?”
Not sure of the dynamic between you too, but if I were dreading it, I would say something.
Good luck and have fun
Post # 6
I think we have the same list of outlawed items. Just try and go with the flow, if you go into the class thinking you’re going to be miserable/sweaty then you will be.
Post # 7
Thanks guys. I almost wish I could say something, but I feel extra bad since its my MOH’s birthday this weekend. Oh ya, not that I wouldn’t feel bad enough already… So I think I’ll just suck it up and take it easy and just laugh at everyone else while sipping a drink. Shower & do my hair before we go and then take my sweet ass time applying my party face and if I’m running late for dinner I’ll send them down ahead of me. It’s just annoying that the ONE THING I asked specifically for was a nice dinner and it was like pulling teeth just to get someone to make a reservation (last night). And now I might miss it. MAN, I am debbie downer today! Sorry for being such a bummer bride. I need to stop now.
Post # 8
@spinach: I agree. It seems like your friends really want to go, and if they’ve put all the effort in to planning and paying for a trip to Vegas, I’d just go along with it. But I wouldn’t risk missing the classy dinner because of an event you aren’t really into. Be a good sport and try the moves, but if the class is too intense, just invoke your bridal privelage and say you want to sit back and watch your girls put on a show for you or something. Or just make halfhearted, terrible goofy efforts and laugh about how bad you are at it, so you won’t get a really intense workout. Nobody’s going to make you get all sweaty and hardcore if you don’t want to, and they probably see this as more of goofy raunchy fun then a time for serious toning, so I doubt it’d be a big deal. Have fun!
Post # 9
just do one spin to make them happy and you not sweaty. haha
Post # 10
Problem solved! We’ll go to a quick dinner before and a nice one the next day. I’m a dork for not thinking of that sooner. I can enjoy many cocktails at the pole dancing class and just enjoy it (including making my girls put on a show for ME)! Out of my Bridezilla funk! Thanks girls! Don’t know what I’d do without Wedding Bee…..
Post # 11
I was going to say what has been said. You are the bride. This is your time, not your Maid/Matron of Honor. Nothing trumps you. But, to be nice, you should at least realize the effort put into the party. You should go, and make them dance for you. They want to do it, anyway, so I doubt they are going to make you do it against your will. You are going with friends, and it’ll be just you guys, so, enjoy the time, and later, you’ll have interesting memories to share with your hubby about how you used to pole dance, but you’re an angel now. Trust me, years down the road, when you are snuggling, it’ll make the romance that much better to tell white lies, and flirt with him in that way. We do it all the time, and it makes us love each other more. Have a great wedding! SB is a nice place to be married.