(Closed) Surprise event at bachelorette party…think I know, not excited :o(

posted 11 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
2083 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Don’t feel bad! I totally know how you feel. Well about part of it anyway. I also tried to refuse to wear any of that bachelorette crap (I hate that stuff) but was pretty much forced to even though I clearly said I did not want to do it. Some people love that stuff and really I didn’t mind wearing something out to the bar when we went dancing but I hated that they made me wear it in a nice restauarant. I don’t get that whole concept – it just made me feel uncomfortable.

As for the pole dancing stuff I get where you are coming from. You want to be able to enjoy your bachelorette party… I think if you let them know this then hopefully they will understand. I let my girls know that I just wanted to go out to dinner, then out to the bar for some drinking and dancing and thankfully they all were totally fine with that as well.

Post # 4
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Hey, it’s okaaayy. Relax, because this could actually be fun. My bachelorette party involved a pole dancing class, and it was super super fun. It’s only you and your girls. Yes, I know, not your cup of tea. But, teachers for these classes can adjust the sauciness level and the difficulty level to your preference. You do not need to leave sweaty and gross. We all left still fresh at the end of the class.

Well, yes, it’s unfortunate that this is the surprise. If you are going to grin and bear, you might as well try your best to be open about it, and have fun.

If it will help, let people know you will be late to dinner, b/c you are going to schnazz up.

Post # 5
707 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Can you just say to your Maid/Matron of Honor. “Look, I know you put alot of effort into this weekdnd and I love you for it. And please don’t take this the wrong way, but I really don’t have any interest in pole dancing. It doesn’t sound very relaxing to me. Anyway we can skip that part?”

Not sure of the dynamic between you too, but if I were dreading it, I would say something.

Good luck and have fun

Post # 6
5839 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think we have the same list of outlawed items. Just try and go with the flow, if you go into the class thinking you’re going to be miserable/sweaty then you will be.

Post # 8
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

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@spinach: I agree.  It seems like your friends really want to go, and if they’ve put all the effort in to planning and paying for a trip to Vegas, I’d just go along with it.  But I wouldn’t risk missing the classy dinner because of an event you aren’t really into.  Be a good sport and try the moves, but if the class is too intense, just invoke your bridal privelage and say you want to sit back and watch your girls put on a show for you or something.  Or just make halfhearted, terrible goofy efforts and laugh about how bad you are at it, so you won’t get a really intense workout.  Nobody’s going to make you get all sweaty and hardcore if you don’t want to, and they probably see this as more of goofy raunchy fun then a time for serious toning, so I doubt it’d be a big deal.  Have fun!

Post # 9
324 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

just do one spin to make them happy and you not sweaty. haha

Post # 11
3 posts
  • Wedding: March 2008

I was going to say what has been said. You are the bride. This is your time, not your Maid/Matron of Honor. Nothing trumps you. But, to be nice, you should at least realize the effort put into the party. You should go, and make them dance for you. They want to do it, anyway, so I doubt they are going to make you do it against your will. You are going with friends, and it’ll be just you guys, so, enjoy the time, and later, you’ll have interesting memories to share with your hubby about how you used to pole dance, but you’re an angel now. Trust me, years down the road, when you are snuggling, it’ll make the romance that much better to tell white lies, and flirt with him in that way. We do it all the time, and it makes us love each other more. Have a great wedding! SB is a nice place to be married.

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