(Closed) Surprise Honeymoon – When to tell him?!

posted 4 years ago in Honeymoons
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Busy Beekeeper

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perri :  Girl, just do it. I can’t believe all the hate you’ve gotten in this thread lol. If my husband came into the room right now and said, “we’re going to Europe for a month, I’ve sorted it with your work, flight’s in 4 hours, pack your bags” I’d be like FUCK YESSSSSS. Granted, I really hate planning, I find it so boring, I just want to land in a foreign country and play it by ear, wake up every morning and do whatever the hell I feel like, not have some rigorous agenda to follow that I agonized over. I enjoy flying by the seat of my pants!

I get that many people wouldn’t take that approach, but YOU KNOW YOUR HUSBAND…the bees do not. Trust your gut on this one, not the chorus of Negative Nancys. Do itttt!!!

Post # 62
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Sugar bee

Ooh ok, your clarification post helped a lot. Knowing you like surprises, are easy with packing, that it’s something that you’ve discussed and planned before, and what industry you work in makes a huuge difference. 

He is going to be PUMPED. I think i would give it at minimum a week after the wedding so that he has time to catch up after the wedding and a bit of time to get excited. But maximum a month after the wedding so it still feels like a *surprise* I think i would tell him at the wedding, or even the day after the wedding. There’s a bit of a ‘wedding withdrawl’ afterward and that would give him something new to be excited about without detracting from the wedding itself. Either that, or when you do photos between the ceremony and reception. 

Post # 63
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Buzzing bee
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whnlz :  I think he may forget something he meant to pack because he will be rushing. My DH would definitely forget something. She can make it easier for him by doing the packing for him (he will be away an entire month). I did this for my DH for a surprise weekend trip. Nothing was missing and he was able to just relax and enjoy.

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Busy bee

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bebelicious1 :  It never occurred to me that it takes people more than like maybe an hour to pack a suitcase. 

Post # 66
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Busy bee

I read some comments talking about how this would be too stressful for your groom, and I kind of disagree actually. 

Can you not give him a heads up that you have planned a month long honeymoon and to be prepared, and then surprise him with the actual itinerary during toasts at the wedding? Ive been to a couple of weddings where one partner surprised the other with honeymoon plans and everyone loved it and was clapping and crying and asking for more details, it was great. Not what I would want, but everyone else seemed to love it. 

Another idea is to take him out somewhere special in the next few months and surprise him almost like a “proposal”.Take him where you had your first date or where you first talked about wanting to see the world and hand him an envelope with the itinerary. That way its something special and it’s a special “Event” in you guys’ life, but it’s not a complete surprised 2 days before leaving. 

 

Even if someone surprised me 2 days before leaving I woud be like FCK YEAH LETS GO! But that’s just me. I love adventure and mostly I love avoiding responsibility haha. So if I were surprised with a month long trip in which I didn’t have to do anything except site see and explore and kiss my new life partner, I would be ecstatic. 

Post # 67
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Busy bee

Okay sorry I didn’t read that you had updated. Glad to hear your decision! He’s going to love it! 

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Buzzing bee
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whnlz :  You have never met my husband. He would pack a couple pair of underwear, socks, a few shirts, a few pants, and toothbrush/toothpaste for a month. I don’t know OP’s FH either so I just wanted to make a suggestion that may be helpful. We went to Jamaica for a week last month and after 3 days my DH was asking if they had washer/dryers because he was running out of clothes already. I did not help him pack that time.

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