(Closed) Surprise! I'm co-hosting the bridal shower and didn't know it.

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I’m confused as to what the problem is???

Post # 4
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3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think your focus should be planning a nice bridal shower for the bride, and not getting so caught up with whose name is on the invite.  It’s about the bride, not you.

ETA: I recently spent over $1000 on my friends shower as Maid/Matron of Honor, and listed all of the BMs as hosts, even though some of them did not help at all, or contribute a dime.

And, you should get excited about the dresses and whatever else the bride chooses.  It’s part of being in the bridal party.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

As the MOB said, the other Bridesmaid or Best Man didn’t actually do anything so your plans should be fine the day of 🙂 Don’t say anything to the bride!

Post # 8
Hostess
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s about the bride… not about the credit. All the showers invites I’ve received and sent out when I hosted it at my home reflected “hosted by the bridesmaids” not even listing “MOH + bms”

 

Post # 9
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3136 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@daisiesarenice:  You have to go with the flow. It’s “group project” mentality. And also, smile and be friendly and happy that day- no sulking.

Post # 10
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3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would not bring it up to the bride.  It’s very rude to bad mouth her friends to her.

Post # 12
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46404 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I do not think you should take this issue to the bride. Really, If you were the bride would you want to have to deal with petty issues like this?

Consider it a lesson learned to have better communication in the future. If you consider yourself a -co- hostess, make sure you nail down who is doing what and who has authority to make what decisions.

Post # 13
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2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Let it go. If you say anything to anyone it will get back to the bride, and she really doesn’t need that drama. It sounds like this was all the MOB’s doing and not really the BM’s, so it would be unfair of you to take it out on the Bridesmaid or Best Man, also you better believe if you give the MOB any attitude of it she will tell the bride and spin it to try to get the Bridesmaid or Best Man to be the new Maid/Matron of Honor. Let.It.Go. 

Post # 14
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13010 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well, you deleted your OP so I can only go on the responses, but I say, get over it.  I gather the other BMs were put on the invitations without doing the actual prep work.  That sucks, but seriously, what is going to tell people you’re mad going to do?  The bride will be uncomfortable, and so will the other BMs.  There just isn’t a good outcome to this. 

(Apologies if I interpreted the situation wrong)

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