Post # 1
I just got an email from my SIL (they got married 2 years ago.) She’s changing her email address to First name, middle initial, last name @gmail.com
My email is that, and we now have the same middle and last name. Her first name is the same length and ends the same as mine. So now, they look and sound almost identical.
I TOTALLY just had a heartbreaking moment! I was like, wow, she’s getting my name and I have to leave it behind. It came out of nowhere and I totally didn’t think I’d be hit with that pang of jealousy. In reality, I know it’s totally irrational, and it’s logical to do first middle initial last. It really not a big deal, but it just surprised me that when I read her email announcing it I was actually a bit taken back with some jealousy!
Anyone else get hit with a surprise jealous moment?
Post # 3
This just made me think of something funny regarding names/email. Future Father-In-Law and I have the same first initial. He just created a gmail account for himself and “stole” the first initial/last name email address! I teased him about it and he said he would trade me ;o) I’m going to do first name/new last name instead ;o)
Anyway, I wouldn’t worry about it. Soon you’ll likely have a new email address and then it won’t sound the same at all!
Post # 4
🙁 it’s tough to leave something as big as your name behind, BUT it’s part of the process for most of us … and hey, soon you get to merge your name with that of your soon-to-be Hubby, and that’ll be it’s own kind of amazing!
Post # 5
Wow, that would kinda suck to have someone so close to you have it! I had a hard time finding a new e-mail addy since my new name is so common! I’m still just using my old e-mail addy, although I did reserve first mi newlast at gmail dot com for when I eventually DO want to switch!
Post # 6
I can understand exactly! My cousin just got married and when his wife changed her name I was like, “no fair!”. I’ll miss my last name terribly!
Post # 7
Aww. This particular scenario probably isn’t common. I feel for you. That’s kind of hard. I think if you were already married for a while, with a new name, it wouldn’t bother you so much. Or if you had your name for a while longer, before changing, same. But it’s a pretty emotional time getting married-changing your life. And then SIL hasn’t been married all that long. It’ll get better.
Post # 8
Eek! I know what you mean. I have a brother and I already got sad thinking that when he gets married, his wife will have my last name, whereas I have to give up my last name.
Even though it’s weird to me know, I just remind myself that eventually I will define myself as part of my own family (me + fiance) and my new name will symbolize that.
Post # 9
I understand now that I just went to gmail and tried my FN.MN.FutureNewLastName and blam nope sorry taken. I really dislike having numbers after my name too so that won’t fly. Darn men don’t even have to change their name, Fiance has had the same yahoo email addy which is his FN.LN (VERY common names) for over 10 years, if you try to get his name now they come up with a 4 digit number after it since it’s so popular lol.
Post # 10
Want to hear something funny? My mom’s first name is identical to my dad’s sister’s name. Both couples got married around the same time, and so my aunt had to very quickly get used to the idea of her SIL having her EXACT name! Made for some funny telephone conversations with telemarketers/buisnesses… I totally understand being ‘jealous’ of someone having your name, but deep down you have to realize how lucky you are: now you officially get to spend the rest of your life as one unit with your husband! To me, that’s too exciting to let the jealousy get in the way…
Post # 11
OP – I understand how you feel, but I think I feel more sad than jealous. I am 30 y.o, and so in my professional life, it’s always been my current (to be maiden name). My younger brother married his wife as soon as she graduated from college last year. When they married, she took our last name. We share the same first name, but she uses a shortened nickname of it in day to day life.
I have had my gmail account firstname.lastname for about 6 years now. I plan to keep it and just change the name attached to it.
My first name is 3 syllables, my current last name is 2 syllables, and my fiance’s last name is 3 syllables. I’ve always been pretty independent so I wasn’t always set on taking on my husband’s last name. I’ve been thinking about just attaching his name to mine so that I have 3 names, but then it will be 8 syllables and 22 letters long!