(Closed) Surprise or choosing your own ring?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Suprise ring or choosing your own?
    ring shopping together?! hell yes! : (131 votes)
    64 %
    I love surprises! I would love whatever he would choose for me. : (50 votes)
    24 %
    other : (25 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
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    2759 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’d like to go ring shopping to look at the rings I like so we can get a good idea, but I want to leave the ultimate decision up to him. I have a “top 3” pinterest board at the moment that I may send him down the road, but we’ll see – both Verragio and Tacori have stores near where we’re going to be living in a few months, so chances are we can just go and I can try them on in person anyway. But I want him to make the end decision, after heavy input from me haha.

    Post # 4
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    2759 posts
    Sugar bee

    Plus, he’s already hinted at what he has in mind for me and it’s totally opposite of my taste.

    Post # 5
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    1762 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We went ring shopping and I have picked out my dream ring so the wait begins..his taste in rings are the opposite of what i like and yes he has shown me a what he was going to pick out..but he would rather make me make happy and have something I really love on my finger for the rest of my life.

    Post # 6
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    3357 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @lsimpson:  I ring shopped with my Mother-In-Law and SIL without Darling Husband. picked out a selection of rings from a few stores, and then left it all up to him to pick one.

    Post # 7
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    1926 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’m going to be honest in that I’m super, super, rather unreasonably detail oriented (picky as hell, okay?) and he knows that. He wants me to customize my ring to my exact specifications because he doesn’t want my ring to be anything but perfect. Of course if he had wanted to pick it out himself, I would have let him!

    Post # 8
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    5886 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Darling Husband has no patience for shopping. We went ring shooping together once and 3 rings in, he was ready to “pick on already”. He also feels guilty that he is bothering the salesperson, so he gets embarressed when I ask to see the same ring for the 4th time. Plus they all look the same to him. So I went on my own. No pressure from him to hurry up. I could go to as many stores as I wanted and try on 1000 rings. So I found the ring I wanted, told him the store and which ring I wanted. We were both happy.

    Post # 9
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    747 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We went ring shopping together and I picked out what I liked. Fiance decided right there that he was buying the ring and put a down payment on it. We picked it up a few months later but he waited a bit before proposing. I couldn’t wait to get my hands on my ring. Let’s just say that I was a bit impatient for a bit. 🙂

    Post # 10
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    8696 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I dont like surprises so I love that he let me pick. If we could do it over, I would want to do the same thing (ring shop together).

    Post # 11
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    687 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Ha, another control freak here. My boyfriend asked which color gold I wanted and I was sure that I would leave everything else up to him. But then I started reading diamond forums… And that was the end of me, haha. I actually ended up sending him step-by-step instructions, including diamond shapes I absolutely do NOT like (I mean, I trust his taste, but what if some sales person talks him into getting a heart shaped one?..), preferred vendors and what type of setting I want and gave a couple of not-so-subtle hints on what I do like (“Ooh, come look how pretty this is!”). So the final decision is up to him, but at least I’ve more or less safeguarded myself from receiving some hideous monstrosity that I will not be able to wear. I know that might sound a bit harsh, but the more I look at other people’s e-rings, the more picky I become! 

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee

    @lsimpson:  I’ve narrowed it down to three, and he will be making the final selection. Best of both worlds!

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee

    @lsimpson:  For me, the best of both worlds was,

    Him asking me for different styles I liked and me picking out a few options.

    Him deciding from said options.  Still a surprise.

    For me, I would prefer this method than him getting me something that I really do not find attractive.lol

    Post # 14
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    1193 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Even though my Fiance and I picked out our rings together (i actually think i cheated myself, he would have gone above and beyond alone) I’m a huge fan of the pick out 3-5 rings you really like (either online or in store) then him picking the ring himself Approach.  The theory (to me) is he has an idea of what you like but has the freedom to choose from those or a different one but at least he has a feel for what you want. This prevents him from buying a marquise stone if you hate them or a three stobe ring if you’re a solitaire girl. 

    Post # 15
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    525 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    For me, ring shopping would have ruined the surprise not only of the ring itself, but of the proposal too.

    We had a short discussion one night over dinner about what I liked and didn’t like, and that was really it. He went and picked out a ring on his own for me. I didn’t know that he had gone to buy one – so it was completely secret.

    This meant when he proposed, it was entirely a surprise. To me, that was way more fun, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I’d have been upset if it wasn’t a surprise, because in my mind it’s supposed to be. But, that’s just me.

    In the end, I got a beautiful ring – a diamond instead of an amethyst, but I love it 🙂

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

    It think I’d be happy with either situation. Him picking it out would be incredibly romantic and if he didn’t get it quite right I know he’d rather know so we could change it (but the sentiment would still be there). If Boyfriend or Best Friend didn’t feel happy doing that then I’d rather he felt comfortable in the build up to getting engaged so I’d be happy to oblige if asked, and it’d probably be fun to look at rings.

     

    I’m not particularly fussy about jewlery (though I do like simple), and I know very little about gems and stuff so I think either way he’ll do just fine 🙂

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