(Closed) Surprise proposal vs. Expected proposal

posted 9 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: What was your proposal & your proposal preference?
    Was surprised and wouldn't have ever wanted to know : (55 votes)
    43 %
    Was surprised; however, would have liked to know : (2 votes)
    2 %
    Knew it was coming and wouldn't have had it any other way : (47 votes)
    37 %
    Knew it was coming and now wish it was a surprise : (23 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 32
    10713 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Haha I walked into a jewelry store and he followed me they asked him if he wanted to apply for a Gordons credit card and was approved for a $5000 limit one thing led to another which led to another and he bought me the ring I liked best right on the spot… in 2 weeks it was fitted and ready for pick up. The woman handed the ring to me (hahaha) My Fiance put it in the locked box so I couldn’t play with it =( I kept waiting and waiting for him to propose (I guess he was waiting for Valentines Day) However I don’t like to wait and got upset one day and finally let it out asking if he was ever going to propose. LOL He was so cute, he told me to close my eyes and he got the ring out got on 1 knee while I was laying on the couch and proposed. hahah. After he put it on me and I was admiring it and such he was like “aren’t you going to call people and take pictures of it for your friends… cause I want to” hehe awww I love him.


    We had already been talking about getting married =)

    And he knows I don’t like big public scenes or surprises so it was just cute and pefect =)

    Post # 33
    660 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I was totally surprised (at the Disneyland castle Valentine’s Day!)… dream come true! Although we had talked about getting married someday and we had looked at rings this was not something “for sure” just conversations. It turns out that he bought the ring about 3 months prior to the surprise proposal and I was honestly clueless. For me it was perfect, and I’m so happy I didn’t know.

    Post # 34
    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I wanted Darling Husband to surprise me, but he actually won a contest and had to propose onstage- so- He told me because he didn’t want me to be publicly surprised (so I am glad he told me) but I wish I could have had a private surprise proposal because that is more our preference.  That’s okay.  We were just so uncomfortable onstage that it was a little more awkward than it would have been!

    Post # 35
    1664 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I was somewhat surprised, although I knew it would be happening within a period of a few months so it wasn’t a HUGE surprise. He did catch me off guard though, when I walked in from a weekend trip. The reason I didn’t suspect is because he told me earlier that week he needed a bit more time to save for a ring. Wouldn’t have had it any other way 🙂

    Post # 36
    6891 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Lol I think it’s kind of funny that some people are really offended or whatever that other people approached the proposal differently… Does it really matter? (This is not directed at any one in particular, it’s just a common theme I was reading into.)

    On that note, we picked out (and bought *gasp*) the ring together. I knew he would do it at some point after that, though he waited several months for the “perfect date.” It worked for us. We aren’t a very mushy or romantic couple and I personally hate being surprised by something, so not knowing when he would do it really bothered me. We’d been together a while, talked about marriage and finances, and then bought it together since we’d already been combining finances for years.

    Post # 37
    11 posts
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Maybe it’s my age? Or that’s it’s an “encore” for both of us but.. I picked out my ring, he was with me of course, and I know that the proposal is happening 07/07/12. Not the details of how, or where, but that that is the day.

    It feels good when he drops little clues ( all lies I know to throw me off) or the fact that my kids are in on it and they seem to be getting a kick out of teasing me or being in on the plan.

    It’s fun, kind of like being a kid and counting down to Christmas.


    Post # 38
    945 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We went ring shopping together, so I could get exactly what I wanted. I knew when it was ready to be picked up, because I had been having a bad day. And he gave me a 6-week window of when it would be happening. So I knew.

    That being said, when it actually happened it was still a surprise because I didn’t know exactly when. And it was a real proposal, he wasn’t just like “here’s your ring,” it meant telling our family and friends (do you know how hard it is to keep something like this to yourself for 3 months while he gets to tell everyone he knows what he’s planning?)

    Post # 39
    11 posts
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @iammcdibble:  Yes! I do know.. I’m being very general when asked if we’re getting married, he get’s to be specific!




    Post # 40
    325 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Piney River Ranch

    I knew it was coming and was pretty certain it was going to happen the day that it did.  We had discussed a timeline (getting engaged, how long to plan the wedding, when we want to start trying to kids) since we’re 27.  I knew it was going to happen sometime after our discussion but before summer 2012.  He told me about this weekend getaway he had planned but wouldn’t tell me ANYTHING about it, which really made me suspicious.  We had gone ring shopping together twice about two-three months before this weekend getaway and I picked out three or so settings that I loved – he was in charge of the final decision and picking out the stone.

    Ultimately, I knew it was going to happen during the weekend getaway he had planned and kept secret.  I didn’t know exactly WHEN it was going to happen, although I had a good idea.  Then I kept looking for signs and I will say I was disappointed that I was so “nosy” because I spotted the lump (ring box) in his jacket after he came back from “going to the bathroom” after we reached our destination on our hike.  So, I knew it was happening before he got down on one knee, but it was still SO special and I still cried.

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