Post # 1
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715 posts
Busy bee
This is more of needing to get something off my chest than really looking for advice. I would like to preface this by saying, I’ll be grateful for whatever my girls put together!
It’s a known fact that showers in my family are always a surprise. When I was on the planning end of these showers, I thought it was great fun. Now that I’m on the receiving end, I’m totally anxious about it. Because of logistics, I can totally see having a shower where four people would show up. I’ve told my mom that I would rather just spend the day at the spa or going out for tea with my closest family if it’s really going to be four people and she refuses to talk to me about it saying it will ruin the surprise.
I’d just like some say in the matter!
Post # 3
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190 posts
Blushing bee
I get it! My Future Mother-In-Law is a wonderful lady but she’s been trying to have a surprise shower for me and it absolutely didn’t work.
The first time she got it all together but I wasn’t available because I was out of town with my girlfriends.
The second time she asked that I stay overnight and we would have lunch together the next day, but I had tickets to a show so it didn’t work out then either.
The last time the entire wedding party was planning to meet at my house for a dress fitting and nobody reconciled the time and date until it was too late.
Finally, she asked me what date worked, I told her, she gave me a time and a place and it’s working much better.
Look – I just hate surprises too.
Post # 4
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540 posts
Busy bee
I hate suprises. I was much less nice about than you are being. I simply told my girls, mom and other close family that I hate suprises and that I wanted to know when it was. I let them plan the rest, with a little help from me (when asked) but I was not interested in having the date be a suprise.
I feel your pain. My shower did work out wonderful, but I agree suprise showers are stupid. I claimed that I was so busy that I needed to know when so I didn’t book anything else. That is basically true but it was worth it to let them tell me.
Just hope that your girls and family listen to all your hints and do what they know you would love. It wouldn’t hurt to drop some VERY clear hints too. 🙂