(Closed) “Surprise” Showers – that I now know about! What now?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I know that, at least in my case, it was really important to my sisters and mom that my shower stayed a surprise. I ended up finding out through my Future Mother-In-Law who let enough info slip that I know when it is (next weekend!!) but I’m going to put on my surprised face because I know how hard my family worked on it and I don’t want to ruin it for them.

My mom also swore that she would tell Fiance and I either the night before or the morning of, just so we don’t show up looking like scrubs!

I would ask to know right before so you can get dolled up, but keep it to yourself that you are aware of the exact dates ๐Ÿ™‚

And, welcome to the hive!

Post # 4
46470 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Give up some control girl! Your friends and family wanted to surprise you.

Unfortunately you already know the dates. So you don’t have any worries about not being dressed appropriately or having your makeup done. Don’t tell anyone you already know their plans. Why would you want to ruin their fun?

If you want to avoid potential conflicts in the future, share your calendar of vendor appointments with your Fiance or your Mom.- or both. You can tell them you want them to know in case you want either one of them to accompany you.People are likely to check with one of them if there are any other events being scheduled. 

Post # 6
4 posts
  • Wedding: October 2011

My wonderful fiance last night told me to just ‘act’ surprised for my shower on Sunday.  He was on the phone with his mother when he said, oh my sister is coming home?  then i instantly knew that she was coming home for my shower.  I was told it was another friend’s shower who is getting married 15 days after i am.  I suspected that this was actually my shower, but I had a lot of doubts and REALLY REALLY wanted to be surprised.  The other day I realized that my registery items were flying off the shelf, while my friends (whose shower it was supposed to be) registry was untouched.  Then I recieved a check in the mail from someone who told me they wouldn’t be able to attend the shower-though they didn’t give a date.  Why did FH have to tell me to act surprised!?  Why couldn’t he just say his sister was home for our friends shower?  sigh.  I would have only suspected still had he not said that.  I never had a surprise party before and I was really looking forward to it.  But now I know when and where it will be.  Am I supposed to act surprised?  I feel guilty for knowing and hiding it.  I feel sad for my fiance – who feels WORSE. But I know my sister and bridesmaids are working hard on this and I don’t want to make them feel bad too! Darnit!  I don’t know if I should be mad or embarrassed or guilty or what.  The next 5 days will be difficult, embarrassing and stressful now

Post # 7
2414 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Play stupid…let them have their fun!

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