Surprise wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

The wedding is suppposed to be a surprise for the guests?? Before I weigh in…I want to make sure I understand the situation…

Post # 4
3098 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I like it. We considered this.

Post # 5
3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

my only issue with the surprise is that some people might not come if they don’t know it’s a wedding.  Like if you have a dear aunt that happens to be sick that weekend, she might say “oh, i feel very fatigued and sick – i’ll just catch up with her next week” and skip it.  But she’ll be so sad to miss the wedding!!

Post # 6
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It really depends on your family and friends.  My mom would KILL ME if she wasn’t allowed to be part of the planning.  And people may not take it as seriously or try to get there as much if they think it’s just a party and not a wedding.  And it also may take away from the whole celebration, because people will just be saying to you afterwards, “WOW, you got married???? WHAT??” instead of “Yay, it was beautiful, congratulations!”

So I guess I don’t love the idea as a guest, but I also don’t think it’s going to be fabulous as a bride either, honestly.  Why are you having a surprise wedding?  I think that’s a big part of the reaction, too.

Post # 7
582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

there was a suprise wedding on 100 layer cake that was reallly cute:

I kind of agree about the guest who may not come because they dont know its a wedding. I would be really dissapointed if I couldnt make it to a friends “party” and then later found out it was the wedding. Thats the only thing to think about.

Post # 10
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I guess as long as everyone you really wanted there were there, than it would work out fine. I think you should do what you want and what will make you happy. But as a guest at a surprise wedding I might be kinda bummed if I didn’t get a chance to get a gift or help you plan if I was really close to you, but as long as I was part of it, I’d be happy. What would you tell people to get them there?

Post # 11
18641 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think it would be a really cute idea.  Do you live close to a lot of guests so they would be likely to come out for a party? Or if you can just have a smaller intimate thing that would be great too.

Post # 13
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

wow that wedding looks FABULOUS!!

Post # 14
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

That wedding on 100 layer cake does rock! The engagement party cover would get the right people there I think too.

Post # 15
326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think it depends on your family. While I’m a firm believer of “it’s YOUR day, do what YOU want,” things might get tricky. Everyone posted some good points – about people flying in, or people not taking it seriously and not showing at all. Some families are casual and spontanious like that. Mine personally would have a fit! Good luck though, either way!

Post # 16
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with ProudPeacockBride, it’s your day! I think it’s a great idea, just send out the invites saying an engagement party so that people near and dear to you make sure to show up! I think if you and your Fiance and the parents are ok with it go for it! (I say parents b/c I know my mom would be heart broken if she didn’t get a say in something so major!)

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