(Closed) Surprised at no gifts from certain people

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 62
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1281 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@cantonbride:  Exactly.

If I can’t afford a gift, I’m not showing up.  That’s being a good GUEST.  Conversely, the OP needs to just take a deep breath and be a good HOST.

Post # 63
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3682 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@rubybride718:  +1

@hollywould:  OP, literally all of your 19 posts on Weddingbee have been about gifts and not receiving enough of them. At this point, I think you have to move past this. If those individuals choose to send you something at a later date, they will. If they don’t, there’s nothing you can do about it and obsessing over it won’t make it any better.

Post # 64
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70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

This is my second and I actually have gotten more this time than the first. No you don’t  HAVE to give a gift but its curtious to bring at least a dollar store can opener!

Post # 65
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4767 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I kinda feel that rich people give nothing or very little and people who are not as well of tend to give a lot more.

Post # 66
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748 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@hollywould:  I agree. No one is ‘required’ to have an open bar either. But you’ll get read up one side and down the other for bringing up cash bars and how tacky it is. Going to a wedding without even a card for well wishing is tacky. Plain and simple.

Post # 67
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651 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We didn’t get gifts from half our guests too and it did sting a little. But OK, Dutch people are said to be stingy so was not really a surprise:P Am I angry? No, because it was a destination wedding. Did I notice? Yes, especially because the other half gave really generously (I think we would have noticed a lot less if we received nothing from all the guests rather than nothing from half and lots from the other half). Would I take this into account (as in future gifts at their weddings)? Maybe (meaning if we were in a good position, we would still give a generous gift to our guests who gave us nothing but if we were not, then I would not scrimp nor sacrifice on my own comfort to save up for their gift).

The SO and I are quite generous with gifts (compared to other Dutch people) and we would definitely give for a 2nd marriage. Obviously, it depends how many people we know who have divorced and remarried (grand total of zero atm but if it happens say one 2nd marriage every year or two, we would!).

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