Post # 1
I’ve never heard of some of the wedding etiquette out there until i started coming onto weddingbee. Heaven forbid the gift registry gets put in with the invitation! I didnt know that people were so offended by honeymoon registries. I dont even know what a “brides attendant” is! And there are bridal showers AND bachelorette parties?
What are some traditions that you have heard that you just dont do where your from?
Post # 3
goose for the mother of bride… apparently my fil and fiance read somewhere that this was a korean tradtion… funny thing is my mom who pulls the “im korean we do it my way” card didnt know about it… she be getting a glass goose tomorrow night
Post # 4
One for me the other day was “tiered weddings”. We’re having our wedding at home and have been getting a few comments from my mum about adding guests from her extended family (second cousins, so forth) – our guest list is already bigger than we wanted and we dont have the space or budget to have them for dinner. So I was looking up threads to see if there was a way to sort of “extend” the party post dinner… I had never realised it was so taboo!!
Post # 5
@Laitka: I think that all depends on your region and family circles. In FI’s family for instance it is acceptable to invite some people to the ceremony and all following events, others to dinner and the rest of the reception, and then others to just cocktails and dancing after dinner has been served. My family has no qualms about splitting up the ceremony and having reception only guests. A wedding in his family was the first time I’d encountered that kind of staggering though.
A lot of my extended family only comes for the big party even if they are invited to the ceremony. In the last decade or so it has since become common to have reception only invitees and nobody bats an eyelash. I didn’t know this was so rare until being on here.
Post # 6
@FloretteLiz: Thanks for that 🙂 FH is now totally set on opening up the “party” after dinner! haha. I was a bit turned off/worried after reading some threads with pretty strong opinions on how rude it was. I think because we’re both really relaxed about it all, we’re sort of approaching it more like just planning a big party and sometimes forget there’s etiquette to think about.
Post # 7
There is a big difference between etiquette and traditions. Traditions are things like the bride wearing white, the best man making a toast, having a bridal party or not, etc.
Etiquette has everything to do with making your guests feel comfortable and properly hosted, and treating them like mature adults.