Post # 1
My FI & I wanted to NOT spend a whole lot of money on our wedding. We thought that, for us, a huge party seemed silly. Now I have been to some LOVELY high-budget weddings! The couple looked thrilled and were very much in love. They obviously enjoyed every bit of their wedding. But we knew from the start that we didn’t want that for our wedding.
We were hoping to keep the budget to $5,000 or $6,000. (Which isn’t exactly “cheap” – but it was our goal.)
We thought we were being pretty budget conscious; we have a fairly small guest list (55 or so), we chose a lovely venue with low fees ($500 for the site, under $25 pp for the meal & cocktail hour “snacks”), I chose a pretty dress in the $350 range. Instead of a traditional wedding cake bakery, we contacted a local baker with delicious cakes and just ordered two of them…
So I totaled things up yesterday evening and I was shocked to see that we’ve already spent over $4,000 and after all is said and done, it looks as though we’ll have spent around $11,000 on wedding-related costs. – Not including our honeymoon. Eeek! (about $1,750 of that is gifts of services from parents, but it’s still money being spent on our wedding)
Now, we both have pretty good jobs, so it’s not as if we can’t readily pay for this, but I had no idea how expensive things were getting.
Did anyone else “blow” their budget? Or have sticker shock when they saw the final numbers?
Post # 3
I had the same revelation after our wedding.
We planned the wedding over two years so I bought little things here and there.
We really thought we only spent around $5000…then I added everything up and it was closer to $10,000!
Luckily for us we did get some good cash wedding gifts, and our IL’s paid for photography. I will say that spreading the cost over 2 years really helped too. It didn’t feel like we spent that much. lol
Post # 4
Yeeep. We spent only a little bit more than we planned – IIRC, we aimed for 11-12,000 and came in at 13-14,000. But I was shocked at how easy it was to get that high, even without paying for a venue (we did it at my mom’s house) and with a small guest list (~60).
Post # 5
We were thinking we could keep it around $7,000, but the way its going it will be about 15-16,000.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
It’s a budget. We set up costs for each item based on the overall budget and what was important and we didn’t spend a penny more than what we had budgeted.
Post # 7
We set a budget at the beginning but that has gotten way out of control. I also think I’m at the point where I don’t even care about cost because I just want everything to be taken care of! Terrible mind set but I am ready for this wedding to happen and want to be done stressing about it.
Post # 8
We were actually under, our budget was 10K and we came under 8K – however our budget did not include our rings or honeymoon. Although “wedding related expenses” we didn’t see it as part of the actual “wedding budget.”
Post # 9
We were hoping for $15k, but spend more like $25k. So def blew ours. It is crazy how everything adds up!
Post # 10
Before I sat down and figured anything out, I thought I could do this for ‘around’ $10K easily. When I finally created a spreadsheet and estimated a cost by item, it grew to about $15K.
At last check, our budget is $19K and FI and I are trying REALLY hard to cap it at $20K.
So, between the time I first started thinking about budgets and now, it’s doubled! Eeeek!
Post # 11
I blew mine a bit but that was after we wrote everything down and figured it all out. I thought it would be no more than 15K minus honeymoon and rings. Now we are looking at alittle over 20K, especially since we may add back in some stuff we took out like videography.
Post # 12
@AnnieAAA: Nice job!! If I don’t consider rings or travel (we moved away from our families, but are having the wedding near our childhood homes) I’m much closer to my expected numbers…
@beachbride1216: FI & I are fortunate to be in a position where we didn’t have to stick to a ridgid budget… When it was time to spend money we’d talk about what was important to us and decide if we wanted to splurge, go middle of the road, get a low cost option, or skip the component all together. I guess we had a “goal” not a “budget” and since we didn’t “charge” anything, and we paid as we went it worked for us, and was responsible in our circumstances.
Post # 13
YUP! We didn’t have a firm budget, just a number we wanted to stay around. But when we looked at vendors if we loved them and could pay their fee then we would booked them even if they were over the “budgeted” amount. We ended up being 40% over our “budget”. But the final number was closer to what I had realistically expected to pay for our wedding. (this doesn’t include the rings, or honeymoon).
Post # 14
we’re having a destination wedding and we thought that it was going to be a lot cheaper…it’s not THAT much cheaper
Between our attire, the ceremony, reception, our tickets, fiance’s brother’s ticket, hotel, car–we’re spending almost 10k. That’s not counting all of the little extras or my engagment ring or our wedding rings.
Post # 15
We came in under budget due to a couple factors. My MIL bought our flowers which saved us about $1800. And our venue forgot to charge us for our ceremony room which saved us $750 😀 Our budget for the wedding (not including HM and rings) was $13,000, and we came in under (can’t remember exact #)
Post # 16
Yep! We are having the same problem now. We budgeted and estimated for $10k when we initially started planning. However, it looks like it will be about $13k-14k in the end. There were, obviously, some items that we didn’t account for when we first did the budget. Now, my spreadsheet is a little terrifying.