- 5 years ago
I’m the queen of patience. Somehow, though, I want to scream at the top of my lungs over this wedding!
Pre-engagement, I had a wonderful relationship with my in-laws. We got engaged and are planning a very simple wedding for a medium crowd (90 ppl). Nothing over the top as the FI and I are paying for the entire thing. We chose a venue, theme, colors, etc. It was generally made clear that both of our parents wanted to leave the planning up to us and that we reach out to them with responsibilities we needed them to complete. A dream, right?
Suddenly, things have changed with my father-in-law. Now the venue is too expensive. Now the catering is over the top (side note, he doesn’t even know how much the estimate is). Why not just have the wedding at the house, he says (their house, by the way, can maybe fit 40 people). Why don’t we cook the meal ourselves, he says. When mentioning the blatant fact that their house can’t hold more than 40 people, he then tells us we’re inviting too many people (FI’s family alone is 40 !) My FI steps up and continues pointing out obvious things, “Dad, do you know how many plates you’d have to get? Tables? Serving Items? A waitstaff?”. Nothing seems to be getting through.
Though he’s stabbed at the “backyard wedding” idea numerous times over the last few months, he’s gradually let go of it. But now he’s trying to FORCE a honeymoon destination on us. We haven’t chosen our locale yet (we have to go on our honeymoon at a later date), but almost every other day is a “photo” of his locale, an e-mail about his ideas, reasons why his place is BEST. FI has stepped up to tell him that we’re not making a decision about it until the dates are set.
Now, he’s planned a post-wedding party at his home and demands our presence there. I want to sleep, I want to rest! The ironic thing is, he wants to blow money on a post-wedding party where he could just contribute to our WEDDING (which his parents, as told, are in NO position to help).
And now he’s getting snarky about the fact that we’re having a religious ceremony, as he is atheist.