Post # 1
Would you ever consider being a surrogate mother?
I wish i knew someone who would be able to do this for me. But its proving to be harder than imagined!
What do you think bees? Would you carry a child for someone else?
Post # 3
Yes. I was going to do this for a friend who cannot risk a pregnancy because of a medical condition. In the end, they decided to adopt, but I would have done it for her in a heartbeat.
Post # 4
I don’t think I’d be able to do it though I think women who do are amazing! I couldn’t carry a baby for 9 months and go through the joys and crappiness of pregnancy only to hand him/her over to someone else.
Post # 5
I would do it for either of my sisters, although not as my FIRST pregnancy. I’d wait until I had kids of my own, and then I’d do it. For friends or random strangers though, probably not. Maybe if it was a really close friend!
Post # 6
I would do this for one of my siblings (and probably my SIL) if they asked. I don’t know that I could do it for anyone else though.
I also wouldn’t do it as my first ever pregnancy. I’d want to have children of my own and experience all of those firsts of childbirth and pregnancy with my own child before being a surrogate for someone elses.
I know it would be really hard to hand that child over at the end of 9 months, but if one of my siblings needed that from me, I’d have a really hard time turning them down.
ETA: Obviously Darling Husband would have to be okay with it too.
Post # 7
Dang it. I voted before you changed the poll options. I voted for the first option, but now it should be the second because they’re different. I would be a surrogate for my sister if she needed me to be.
Post # 8
@UpstateCait: I think the type of pregnancy you have is a real factor. I had easy pregnancies, and silent labors both times ( babies both born within 10 minutes of my feeling the first contractions- which in fact were the last contractions).
Another factor would be that I have already completed my family and have NO desire to have any more children.
We both worked for the same employer. My doctor joked that the employer would be so pissed off having to give two maternity leaves for the same baby ( for us it’s one year paid off work-EACH.)
Post # 9
I absolutely would and actually want to but my husband is against me doing it unfortunately 🙁 I am still working on him though.
I had my daughter young and we don’t want anymore of our own and I am definitely able and think it would be amazing to give someone the opportunity to be a mother that they might not otherwise have.
Post # 10
I would maybe consider it and only with someone I was very close with and after I was done having my own children. It would certainly not be something I did for a stranger but if I could help out a close friend or family than I would possibly do it.
Post # 11
The law in most states (maybe all) and most agencies (again, maybe all?) dont allow it to happen if its your first pregnancy. Theres a lot of steps and tests to go through before being accepted to do such a gracious act for someone, but you have to have children your own first.
My best friend is 110% willing to be a surrogate for me because she has ZERO interest in having children of her own. but because she doesnt have children of her own, shes not able to surrogate for me. I havent been able to find any agencies that would allow it to happen, even if her and i are both willing to try. Maybe its selfish though because we dont know if shed stay healthy, carry the baby to terms, be mentally healthy to avoid all post partum or depression after, etc. Boo 🙁
Post # 12
I’d like to say I would, but pregnancy has been a lot harder on me than I thought it would be. Despite that, I think I would still be a surrogate for someone really close — like my sister or a best friend.
Post # 13
@notevenclose: Youre wonderful <3
Post # 14
Ugh no way in hell. My tubes are tying themselves just thinking about it.
Post # 15
Another friend of mine (and a bridesmaid) is going to be pregnant in my wedding. Her son is going to be the ringbear, and he is just (who will be 14 months old for the wedding) is wonderful. She had a great pregnancy with him and loved every minute of it. She’s in the process of being a surrogate right now for a complete stranger in another state. Shes getting about $60,000 out of the deal. Crazy how money pays!
Post # 16
At the risk of sounding terrible…I don’t think I could do it. I have all of the admiration in the world for women who are strong enough to do so.