Surrogacy?

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Would you be a surrogate mother?
    Absolutely! It'd be so special to give someone that gift. : (11 votes)
    8 %
    Only if i knew the person, for a friend or family member. : (43 votes)
    30 %
    Maybe.. under circumstances. (explain below) : (20 votes)
    14 %
    I don't think i could follow through with it, too many emotions after carrying it myself. : (36 votes)
    25 %
    No way. : (34 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 3
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    46613 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Yes. I was going to do this for a friend who cannot risk a pregnancy because of a medical condition. In the end, they decided to adopt, but I would have done it for her in a heartbeat.

    Post # 4
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    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I don’t think I’d be able to do it though I think women who do are amazing! I couldn’t carry a baby for 9 months and go through the joys and crappiness of pregnancy only to hand him/her over to someone else. 

    Post # 5
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    730 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I would do it for either of my sisters, although not as my FIRST pregnancy. I’d wait until I had kids of my own, and then I’d do it. For friends or random strangers though, probably not. Maybe if it was a really close friend!

    Post # 6
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    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would do this for one of my siblings (and probably my SIL) if they asked.  I don’t know that I could do it for anyone else though.

    I also wouldn’t do it as my first ever pregnancy.  I’d want to have children of my own and experience all of those firsts of childbirth and pregnancy with my own child before being a surrogate for someone elses.

    I know it would be really hard to hand that child over at the end of 9 months, but if one of my siblings needed that from me, I’d have a really hard time turning them down.

    ETA: Obviously Darling Husband would have to be okay with it too.

    Post # 7
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    4693 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Dang it. I voted before you changed the poll options.  I voted for the first option, but now it should be the second because they’re different.  I would be a surrogate for my sister if she needed me to be.

    Post # 8
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    46613 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @UpstateCait:  I think the type of pregnancy you have is a real factor. I had easy pregnancies, and silent labors both times ( babies both born within 10 minutes of my feeling the first contractions- which in fact were the last contractions).

    Another factor would be that I have already completed my family and have NO desire to have any more children.

    We both worked for the same employer. My doctor joked that the employer would be so pissed off having to give two maternity leaves for the same baby ( for us  it’s one year paid off work-EACH.)

    Post # 9
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    223 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I absolutely would and actually want to but my husband is against me doing it unfortunately 🙁  I am still working on him though.  

    I had my daughter young and we don’t want anymore of our own and I am definitely able and think it would be amazing to give someone the opportunity to be a mother that they might not otherwise have.

    Post # 10
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    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I would maybe consider it and only with someone I was very close with and after I was done having my own children. It would certainly not be something I did for a stranger but if I could help out a close friend or family than I would possibly do it.

    Post # 12
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    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’d like to say I would, but pregnancy has been a lot harder on me than I thought it would be.  Despite that, I think I would still be a surrogate for someone really close — like my sister or a best friend. 

    Post # 14
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    2105 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Ugh no way in hell. My tubes are tying themselves just thinking about it.

    Post # 16
    Hostess
    16194 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    At the risk of sounding terrible…I don’t think I could do it. I have all of the admiration in the world for women who are strong enough to do so.

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