(Closed) Surrogating for a sibling?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think that’s really awesome of you! 🙂 I don’t know the legal technicalities or anything but that is a really amazing thing for you to do!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

would you use your own eggs or use a donor? 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I would be very careful about this. It is a very sweet gesture; however, you would be carrying a child for nine months. I know for a fact that I wouldn’t be able to give up a baby after carrying it to term because I would become way to attached. Even if you would be able to see the child any time you wanted to, the child would still belong to someone else. It takes a very strong a courageous person to be able to do this. I am not that strong or courageous. If you have a very strong maternal instinct, I wouldn’t do it.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I was planning on doing then but due to medical reasons can not now. But there is ALOT of legal things that you need to look into and adoption is also something to look into there are LOTS of kids who need homes.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I actually saw an episode of “A Baby Story” where they did this. The mother loved it because she always had that maternal bond, and while the baby lived with the two dads, she became the aunt that could be there for the daughter who needed help with typical girl things.

I think that it’s an incredibly selfless thing to do, and I know I probably couldn’t do it, but it would be a great opportunity for both your brother, his partner, and yourself to be a part of that.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Oh, and I would just like to say that the ‘cool aunts’ are always more fun than the stuffy mom, so your role would be awesome 😛

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@lostbee1234: My younger sister is having a hysterectomy on the 9th of June. She’s 21. My nephew is 4. She’s not in a relationship at the moment but she hopes to get married one day. She has said multiple times that she is hoping to adopt should she get married but I am more than willing to be a surrogate for her. I would have to use my eggs since she’s having her ovaries removed as well. I know that it would be a very difficult thing to do, especially if it is a redheaded baby (my youngest daughter and I are the only 2 people in our family with red hair), but I love my sister more than anything and would do it in a heartbeat. I would definitely do some pre-baby counseling just to make sure I would be able to go through with it but I am so willing to do this for my sister. It could definitely be tricky but I would love to give my sister another baby if I could and give my nephew the little brother or sister that he so badly wants. Still being a part of that child’s life would be all the payment I’d need.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I probably would not, I have a feeling I would get attached to the child, it would be difficult to relinquish control. If they didn’t have any other options I would probably consider it.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think this is an awesome thing to do.  I am in my second pregnancy right now, and i feel this is something that I could/would do if I had someone in my life (close family only) that needed it.  However, that being said, I doubt if this would ever occur in my own life, as luckily, everyone I know has been blessed with children.  I agree you should use another donor egg though!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I think this is such an awesome thing to do, and my hat’s off to you…but I am ashamed to say that I know in my heart of hearts that I probably wouldn’t be able to do the same thing. I’m pregnant with my first child, and I can’t imagine feeling all the kicks, rolls, and waves, getting to “know” the baby like I’m getting to know this little guy…and all the while knowing that I would have to give him up at the end.

I would want to want to, you know? But I think ultimately that it would be a bad situation if I ever tried to actually do it.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My SIL was told that she would not have children, so my brother asked if me or my sister would consider surrogating. I have fertility issues of my own, so I would probably be a no go, but my sister said she would do it for us no problem. However, my SIL is now pregnant (ha! What do you know doctors!) with their first child and is over the moon happy. I want to try and carry my own biological children, but it’s comforting to know that if I need a surrogate, my sister is there. And I would use my own eggs because my issues stem from being able to carry to term, nothing is wrong with my ovaries.

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I would feel uncomfortable with having a niece or nephew I was also the mother of… but I can’t say for sure how I would feel if my brother asked me.

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