Post # 17
If you’ve been having regular unprotected sex since November, that counts as TTC since November, so go ahead and tell your doctor you’ve been trying that long. It’s completely accurate. For medical purposes; unprotected sex = TTC; NTNT is a (somewhat meaningless) line of demarcation used by women on internet forums and not a medical “thing” for infertility purposes.
I’m not saying you’re infertile. It can take healthy couples up to a year to conceive and you’re still within that timeframe. But that doesn’t mean you can’t be proactive and tell your doctor what’s going on, if that would give you some reassurance.
Post # 18
agreed!! And not all doctors will make you wait either!
Post # 19
You’ve been having unprotected sex for a year with no luck. Go ahead and talk to your doctor- it certainly won’t hurt!
I know it seems like EVERYONE got pregnant on the first cycle, or they weren’t even trying, but plenty of normal, healthy, fertile people I know took longer! “We got preggo on our honeymoon!” sounds way better and is more fun to tell people than “it took us ten months of trying and sex was kind of becoming a chore and we were getting worried there was something wrong with us and it sucked but then we got pregnant!”
Good luck, you should get that BFP soon!
Post # 20
I just wanted to say your comment made me giggle out loud. OP I understand the ugly, bitter thoughts that bubble up to the surface when you’re feeling down. I have found that letting myself have an inner hissy fit or venting on WB lets me get it out of my system so I can go on feeling happy for the person in question.
Post # 21
I agree with others, tell your doctor you’ve been having unprotected sex since November when you go to your appointment. In my experience, most doctors dismiss charting and sometimes even opks anyway. We got hubby’s SA done at about 6 or 7 months in, even though it looked like my cycles were the problem, and found some low numbers that were pretty easy to fix with food changes and supplements (using a naturopath for guidance). At least that was fixed while we started working on me. If you’re interested in natural approaches, they won’t make you wait some predetermined amount of time either 🙂
And jealousy is completely normal – so don’t beat yourself up! It’s not like you said it to her!!
Post # 22
Thanks all for the reassurance and advice. My annual isn’t for another month so maybe I’ll get lucky and won’t have to say anything at all. But if not I will be sure to bring it up.
Post # 23
Exactly. It’s not that everybody else gets pregnant on their first try, it’s that those are the people who talk about it. Getting pregnant on your honeymoon is a way more fun and romantic story than getting pregnant after 3-4-5+ months of charting and timed intercourse.