Post # 1
I work in a department that consists of me and 2 other people (another assistant and my boss). I love what I do but it can also be very demanding because it involves lots of paperwork but also planning and interactions with clients literally almost every minute of the day (think event planner meets healthcare meets therapist). Last year the girl I work with started going to school and was unable to work full time. Our job requires 3 full time workers, but instead of parting ways, my boss allowed her to stay. First it was one day off, then 2, then 3,4, and 5 days. It’s exhausting because every couple of months she tells us she’s quitting but then decides to stay. Each time this happens and she cuts down hours, we have to switch everything around and more work is divided between me and my boss…well mostly me. My boss always says we’ll hire somebody but it’s been a whole year and nothing has happened. My boss is also currently looking into a new career path and may be leaving as well. This makes it incredibly hard to get anything done because they’re both so preoccupied with their own lives during work. It’s pretty clear everybody has mentally jumped ship but me. I’ve always tried my best to stay positive and work hard, but I feel like now I’m drowning. Our assignments are overdue, our workplace is messy, and everything seems out of control. I’m getting married in 2 months, so I can’t leave yet. I can’t imagine looking for another job and telling them in 2 months I’ll be going on my honeymoon. I feel so tired and overwhelmed that I feel like I don’t know where to start when I’m there. And although I’ve been clear from the start that I’m in no position to be the manager of our department (I’m in school full time myself but also work full time), I’m worried that if everybody leaves they’ll try to force it on me anyway. I’m mostly just trying to hang in there until after the wedding. Any advice for surviving the next few months?
Post # 2
Is there anyone above your boss? Like their boss, a director, or HR? I think you have alot of valid concerns and it’s unfair to your boss and you that this other girl keeps saying she’s quitting then changing her mind and cutting her hoursl. It’s not acceptable. I think HR or someone higher up needs to have a real conversation with the girl who is flakey and your boss. They are both acting very unprofessional at this point. I have a job where I’ve had to do multiple peoplle’s work due to taking a new position and an employee leaving plus alot of my boss’s job and it almost broke me. If
As someone who is recently married, the next months are going to get incredibly busy with wedding stuff even if your 100% planned.
Post # 3
ask yourself. do you want to stay or go?
if you want to stay, have a heart to heart with your boss. if you don’t like the answer, do above them, to director, hr, etc.
if you want to leave. start interviewing. sometimes the hiring process takes a while. if you are offered a job. tell them you have predetermined plans and can start after your honeymoon or maybe they won’t mind if you take 1-2 weeks off if you start before hand. you never know.
Post # 4
Don’t let your upcoming honeymoon deter you from just starting to look for jobs. It often takes a while to get your resume and cover letters together and find a position you’re really interested in. Plus, companies are often pretty understanding about pre-existing vacations if they think you’re the right candidate. Just be upfront with them about your honeymoon during the hiring process. My friend just got a new job and when on a pre-planned 3 week holiday two weeks after starting there!
It doesn’t sound like the issues you’re dealing with are going to change any time soon. your boss isn’t going to put the work in to straighten things out if she’s trying to leave herself – particularly since she knows she can rely on you to pick up their slack.
Post # 5
I would strongly encourage you to put a timeline together (documentation)
of times you have spoken to your manager regarding these concerns, how many times you have addressed this with your manager (as you have said, it has been a year which is plenty of time for her to get her shit together), how many times your coworker has said she would leave and has not, how many days and what days she has missed, the length of times projects are delayed, etc.
And take all of this up to your boss’s boss. Ask for a meeting and present only the undisputed facts, and tell them it’s hurting your performance and you’re concerned about the future of your department.
I wouldn’t go to HR unless that boss doesn’t do anything. Ask for a measurable solution “I need time to look into this” “great, Im glad you’re taking this seriously because it is serious, when should I follow up with you?”.