Surviving family visits with in laws

posted 1 year ago in Family
Post # 16
4910 posts
Honey bee

warriorgirl :  Why can’t you leave for part of the day? If she’s already rude who cares of you’re rude frankly. Go for a spa day there has to be one nearby. Or insist on going riding. Why can’t thry include you in riding? Even you could be doing a lesson while they’re out and about. 

Post # 17
1263 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Maybe I’m in the minority but I don’t see an issue with not accompanying your husband every time he goes to Arizona. Darling Husband and I visit our families without each other sometimes. I also just came back from a vacation with my family without Darling Husband (DH hates traveling).

Post # 18
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

Don’t go. It’s a trip about Darling Husband seeing his father. It has nothing to do with you. He just abandons you to the awfulness of his mother.

Post # 19
551 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I don’t see any issue with you not going if you don’t want to.

Post # 21
2823 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

warriorgirl :  So you see*your* family all the time,  but visiting *his* family for a day or two *once or twice a year* is a problem for you?!    Yeah no, suck it up and be glad your dh is more generous about your family…..

Post # 22
370 posts
Helper bee

mrstodd2bee :  Was there a deleted post?  I don’t see anything from warriorgirl saying how much time she gets to spend with her parents at all.

Post # 24
542 posts
Busy bee

warriorgirl :  

You should be able to tell your husband how you feel. He should be sympathetic even if he doesn’t share your feelings. Why can’t you just be honest with your husband about your concerns? I don’t understand. 

My husband and I both have crazy MILs. That sounds funny doesn’t it?  We stay in hotels when we visit. Our mothers don’t like it but that is their problem. 


Post # 25
9681 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I wouldn’t go. If your husband doesn’t bother to spend time with you while you go then there’s no need for you to make yourself miserable. 

Post # 26
650 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

You didn’t reply to PPs’ suggesting you to go horse riding. So is this not an option? This sounds a lot more fun. Could you suggest this to your DH? Also, I would try to talk to your Darling Husband about how Mother-In-Law makes you feel. You should be able to express your feelings to your own husband. Maybe he’ll try to spend more time with you instead of leaving you alone with his mum.

Post # 27
1679 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

warriorgirl :  If your Darling Husband is going to have quality time with just his dad, don’t go.  I don’t see the point in spending money on a hotel room/rental car to just hang out on your own. 

I holiday interstate to see my family without my Darling Husband about 50% of the time, no one bats an eye, and my Darling Husband and family get along super well.  

Post # 28
14 posts
  • Wedding: May 2019

warriorgirl :  Why is that rude to go do something on your own? If you want to get specific about rudeness, it is rude beyond measure to invite someone to your home and not make them feel welcome and entertained. At the bare minimum your guests should be comfortable and at ease. Seems to me the only reason you would invite someone and treat them like crap is to make sure they don’t come back. And you’ve gone back how many times?

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