Post # 1
My son is 15 weeks and we’ve hit the 4 month sleep regression (joy). He used to go down exactly at 8 for bedtime and had no issues falling asleep on his own at bedtime. Now, he fights me and wants to eat-slowly…- and is pushing his bedtime to 8:30/8:40. He used to wake only once between 8 and 7ish and has increased to 2 times a night. He is just generally much fussier when being out to sleep for naps or bedtime. So…
What tips/advice do you have on surviving this without creating terrible habits?
Post # 2
I don’t know, waking twice a night doesn’t seem that bad to me, but I bedshare and my baby wakes up a lot every night haha.
I honestly think this is one of those things that just takes some time. There’s so much going on mentally and sometimes physically (my 16 weeker has already been teething for a month) that it’s just tough for them. It seems like there’s always something that throws a wrench into things, especially during the first year.
Post # 3
He wake twice at least now to eat (typed incorrectly at 4am lol). He will wake up more than that and be more difficult to soothe or act like he’s hungry and won’t eat (hates his pacifier right now). What I don’t want to do is accidentally create bad sleep habits because of the changes.
Post # 4
2 times sounds like heaven Sorry haha
I think it’s helpful to just remember it is a phase and just try to go with the flow. Don’t worry about creating bad habits at this age. They wake up because they are in a new developmental phase as pp mentioned and they need you. This too shall pass!
Post # 5
My boy is 12w and I’ve been researching how to get through the upcoming sleep regression as I have a great sleeper (gets up 2x/night to eat but I don’t mind, can totally deal with that) and theres a lot of tips online.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2013 - Outdoor
Try putting him down earlier! He might be overtired and that’s why he’s fighting it and not getting a good night’s sleep. Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child is the book I read.
Post # 7
Thanks! I will look into the book!
I know we are lucky with our guy and sleep (at night). Day sleeping is a whole different story during the week. Still, it’s hard to see your baby struggling to fall asleep and stay that way when he (and we) is not used to this. He may be teething as well. Lots of changes right now!
Post # 8
Wait it out, it will pass. Do what you need to do to get the most sleep. youre not going to create bad habits. kid sleep is constantly changing the first few years of life, you gotta be flexible and just go with the flow.
Post # 9
The best advice I can give (and that I got) is to think of everything as a stage. Your son’s previous good sleeping was a phase, this poorer sleeping is a phase, and in three or four weeks it’ll be something else. For some reason, that perspective helped me a lot.
Fwiw, we sleep trained at four months. Not to cut night wakings or feedings, but just so that DS would go down after eating without it taking me two hours every time. That definitely helped.
Post # 10
Do what you can to get through it. Bad habits can always be changed when he’s a bit older and more adaptable. Everything changes so quickly!
Post # 11
Love it and that’s good to keep in mind. I usually have more perspective during his growth spurts. This one just hit fast and hard. Thanks!
Thanks everyone! We’re just going with it and wanted to hear other’s experiences.
Post # 12
We were there exactly a year ago and it was the toughest time of the first year and a half. I strongly recommend reading Ferber to understand why the regression occurs and how the sleep patterns change.
I also suggest looking at this
I only discovered it afterwards, so I never tried it, but it seems to be the right thing to do at 4 months.
In terms of bad habits: talk to your doctor to see whether the baby needs to eat at night. If you feed, do it at prespecified times. I did the mistake of feeding whenever the baby cried out and soon instead of twice, she was waking up every hour. It turned out (when I finally decided to stop feeding) she wasn’t hungry, but just sucking for comfort. She started sleeping much better, once I stopped feeding her every time she woke up.
Post # 13
Thank you for the resources! Our son sucks for comfort too. He prefers the nipples of his bottles more than a pacifier which mucks things up sometimes. My Darling Husband is really good at night at stopping me in my sle haze from making a bottle until we hear his real cry.
Post # 14
I have no advice, but just want to say – the sleep regression phase will end as quickly as it started 🙂
My son is 5,5 months and we were strugglign with the sleep regression phase between 4 and 5 months… and a couple of weeks ago it just stopped. He just started falling asleep on his own again, and only waking up twice to eat during the night, otherwise sleeping like a log.
So my advice to you is ”just keep going, it will pass” 🙂