Post # 1
hi! this is my first post here and i need some advice. My love is taking me to San Francisco this weekend and i think he’s planning on proposing.
My dilemma is this: I want my sister to be thhe first person i tell, she’s my best friend and im not that close to my parents. BUT she’s been nearly impossible to get ahold of. She lives in North Carolina and I live near Seattle. What I am worried about is that if he does propose, it could take a couple weeks to get in contact with her. I don’t want to waitt that long to tell the rest of the world/friends/family.
so what would you do in my situation? I definitely don’t want her finding out via facebook. I have been trying to contact her everyway possible to let her know this might happen and to answer her phone, but i still haven’t heard back from her.
thanks for listening!
Post # 3
@shultimate13: If he does it, it would be super sad to not allow him to tell people. I also think that it’s strange it takes weeks to get ahold of someone. What happens if someone dies. Does she just miss it?
Post # 4
How fast is your postal service? I’d just send her a note by mail, wait a reasonable time to assume it’s gotten to her place, and then tell the world.
If she’s that hard to get hold of then it’s her own fault if she finds out via Facebook!
Post # 5
WEEKS? does she not answer her phone? ever? email?
I would enjoy the trip and worry about that later if the time comes – and if she doesnt find out first than you can’t tell her that you didnt TRY to get a hold of her, I am sure she will understand.
Post # 6
are her phone lines maybe down due to the hurricane?
Post # 7
If you send her a text, she won’t answer it for weeks? I am not sure how that is possible. I agree with the PP, you can’t say that you didn’t try. I agree that she shouldn’t find out from facebook. Maybe consider disabling your wall until all the people you are trying to tell (sister included) have been told, so that nobody writes “Congratulations on your engagement” on your wall and lets the cat out of the bag. I most definitely would not wait until you have spoken with her to tell all your family and friends. Maybe try to contact her this week and give her a heads up about what you suspect so she might answer her phone when the time comes.
Post # 8
I am not sure if this will work for you but my Fiance and I waited a few days to tell anyone (it was nice having our own little secret) and then we told our parents/siblings/best friends. We asked them to not say anything online or to anyone else to make sure that we were able to get a hold of everyone and tell them ourselves. We had actually been engaged for about two weeks before we posted it online. None of our family spilled the beans until our “facebook wednesday” so it worked out perfect.
Post # 9
I just got her on the phone a few minutes ago and explained things. She said she’ll have her phone ready. Yay!
I do like the ideas to wait on posting online. And, of course, I can’t plan too much since it’s still tentative that he’ll propose, I just wanted to be prepared for anything.
@mwitter80: actually yes. My family and I tried to contact her when my grandma died. A few days after my grandma had already passed, I got a call asking how grandma was and I had to break the news to her. She’s not good at social networking and only recently started using texting at all. She’s only 23, younger than me, but she’s a bit behind the times with some things.
Post # 10
Sounds like you’re getting a bit ahead of yourself.
Just try to enjoy the amazing moment if it happens, just try to get in contact with her ASAP.