Post # 1
Like the title says, I think I’m getting written up at work tomorrow. I’m a newer employee & my hiring boss left & I’ve got an interim boss that doesn’t seem pleased with me. She got on me last week for being too involved in an employee situation where I supported the supervisor under me (I’m the manager) over her employee. I’ve been hands off since but there is tension.
Early this week I get a meeting invite via my new boss’ secretary that simply was titled “discussion”. I don’t have any projects due & my departments are doing fine… still, I’m worried.
What do you think?
Post # 2
- Wedding: Embassy suites Hotel
jannigirl : I honestly wouldn’t worry about it too much and I don’t think you’ll get written up for it. She probably does want to address the situation and discus what happened but I doubt it will go any further than that.
Post # 3
monkey89 : thank you for the reassurance! Sometimes I get a little paranoid. I don’t work with my boss… she’s in a different city, so it’s hard to read the situation.
It’s difficult. New job. New boss.
Post # 4
Maybe they want to promote you ?
Post # 5
jannigirl : bee , first … don’t over think . You are a confident, strong woman and whatever comes your way you will be able to handle it. Be strong and stand up for yourself if the time does come. For now everything is ok and maybe it’s nothing even related to that 🙂 keep us posted
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess
Ahhhhh, I think you’re like me. Any time a manager says, let’s touch base, I immediately think I’m in trouble. It’s so rediculous, I just shoot back, ‘am I in trouble? ‘ every time. She knows I have anxiety.
Post # 7
It’s a new manager – they probably want to sit down with you and discuss how things go and establish roles and responsibilities.
Post # 8
Thanks for the encouragement. Meeting isn’t until the end of the day, so I’ll update after. You bees are right. I’ll try not to panic. I am strong, educated, qualified.
Post # 9
Not every “discussion” needs to be negative. Depending on the dynamic of your working environment, it may just be a private place and EVERYTHING (positive, negative, nuetral) is required to be disccussed behind closed doors. Don’t panic. From your boss’s perspective it’s just “safer” to discuss things (and more professional) in a one on one.
Post # 10
Oh man, every time my boss sends me an email that says anything like “we need to talk” or “let’s have a meeting” the first place my brain goes is “Oh crap, what did I do!” and then we always talk about things like plans for the future or big events coming up. I have never actually had to have a meeting about me being in trouble, but that is ALWAYS the first place my mind goes…
Post # 11
Don’t panic, but I’d still backup my stuff. Sometimes your gut feeling is right and you wouldn’t want to ignore it completly if you can take small steps to be better prepared in case you were right.
Post # 12
You all deserve some support. Part of being a good manager is creating a working environment where people feel comfortable. “We need to talk” is a statement known for inducing tension and foreboding. It’s perfectly acceptable to ask your manager to include the topic in any meeting request, so that you can prepare accordingly and show up ready.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
Don’t they have to do a verbal warning before a written warning? I wouldn’t stress.
PS: I have been written up at previous jobs, and it’s surprisingly not a huge deal. They just have a piece of paper saying you’ve been talked to about whatever. Then you accept your slap on the wrist, sign it and go on your merry way.
Post # 14
jannigirl : Try not to panic, not all meetings with the boss turn out being bad. Maybe it’s just a basic discussion to go over some things?
Post # 15
Ugh, I haaaaaaate when my bosses do this. Always makes me think I’m in trouble.
I was an admin so the “we need to talk” meeting was usually about something asinine like, “Isabelle, which color finish should I pick for my new desk? I was thinking maple veneer would brighten up the space but is gray pebble more stylish?” or “Isabelle, I need you to plan a retirement party for Coworker V. You have a $500 budget to feed 30 people and I want to see a Mexican buffet, a NICE cake, and lots of helium balloons.”
Hopefully it’s something dumb like that.