(Closed) Swap Bridesmaid?

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should I replace my bridesmaid

    yes

    no

  • Post # 3
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    2159 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Shouldn’t it be up to your sister-in-law to decide whether she’ll be well enough to partcipate in the wedding? If you want your niece to be a bridesmaid, ask her to be a bridesmaid, but don’t “swap out” your SIL for someone who’ll be more fun. That’s rude and unfair to your SIL.

    Post # 4
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    30399 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    She likely won’t be ready to be a bridesmaid a week after surgery. I would speak with her, tell her I understand her decision to take advantage of the surgical date offered to her, but that I would not be comfortable holding her to her commitment to be a bridesmaid.

    I would tell her that I was asking her to step down, but hoped that she would be able to attend the wedding even if only for a little while.

    Post # 5
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    2404 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think your SIL would be very hurt if you did that. (i know i would be if i was asked to sit out because i had surgery)

    I say dont do you dont want to start your wedding with bad feelings from your in- laws…

    Post # 6
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    3423 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I totally agree with you that she should have waited until after your wedding for it!

    That is quite mean of her.

    I would talk to her and tell her your concerns and ask her what she wants to do.

    Post # 8
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    WHy would she accept to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man and then schedule her surgery for the week before, i think thats very inconsiderate of her, lap band surgery could wait one more week till the wedding was over.   i know someone who had that surgery and it took her a month to be  strong enough to socialize and attend parties and weddings.. I doubt your bridesmaid will be able to be in your wedding a week after stomach surgery

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