(Closed) Swapped diamond today…now feel bad

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@D0GL0VER: It might be too soon to think about it being the wrong decision. I get the feeling of attachment to that ring cause that’s what you Fiance gave you in the first place but keep in mind he agreed to do this and it was something you did together so don’t feel guilty about it. As for the flaws, you don’t know if they stone has them so don’t worry about it beforehand.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@D0GL0VER: to be honest, something sounds off to me. There should be a significant price difference between an I and a K, all else being equal. What size is your diamond? Did the same lab grade both stones? What are the clarities of the old and new stones? Is the cut quality the same?

You shouldn’t feel guilty IMO if your fiance is on board, but maybe it would be worthwhile to sleep on it to make sure you don’t rush into anything.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think a color difference would be more noticeable than clarity in your case because it is right next to other stones. I understand you feeling bad that you got rid of the original stone, but it’s the meaning behind the ring – not the ring itself, that’s important. 

If you didn’t switch it out, I’m sure the color difference would bother you. I think you made the right decision, but if you think about upgrading/changing in the future, I would advise against that because of the feelings you are having now. 

If you do find flaws, just realize that nothing is perfect and embrace the individuality of your ring! 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Did you receive a GIA or other certificate with the stats of the new stone?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Over the Moon: It depends on the stone, and she did say she went down in clarity. A “couple” hundred dollars could mean closer to a thousand??

 

We were originally looking at a .90 G, SI1, and decided to go for a 1.03, H, SI2 instead for only $400 more.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Agreed with PP, if you didn’t switch, the color difference would bug you!!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am going through this same thing right now. We went to pick out rings and I have always loved Pear and I completely fell in love with the setting before the diamond. The setting is a halo that is F/G and after that I probably would have taken anything. The diamond ended up being a 1 ct center I. I didn’t even bother to ask while I was there so I called afterwards and the salesman told me it was an I. Both the Fiance and I were disappointed as we thought it would have been a G/H. It turns out it would be over a grand to change so we went with the I. I haven’t seen it yet but the Fiance has and he says it isn’t noticable. I am not quite sure. I would feel bad to change it but at the same time, it is the ring you will hopefully have for a long time.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I agree that the color would have really bothered you. Maybe you just need to get the ring back to see how you feel. The new diamond will be present during your ceremony so it will have special meaning as well. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

keep in mind, that in the end it’s just a ring. As long as you and your Fiance are both fine with it, it shouldn’t be a big deal. I thnk you made a great decision, because It will match nicer.. and will still be a representation of your committement to each other. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

I would keep in mind that melee stones/sidestones/smaller stones since they are smaller ALWAYS look a lot whiter.  Even if your bands stones were a K, and your centre stone a K, the melee stones will face up whiter. Just the way melee works, and larger stones show more body colour than smaller stones.

I cannot tell you what to do about your centre stone. If you are not comfortable changing it, maybe either enjoy the warmth for what it is or choose wedding bands that does not show such contrast (like plain, engraved, coloured stones, etc). I know I would recommend that if you do choose the I stone, you should be very sure that you are not losing out on quality (not going from a SI1 to a I2, a GIA graded to an EGL graded, from an ideal/excellent cut to a very good/good cut), etc.

 

 

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have to say that I do have my ring now and it is set in a halo and I can hardly tell the warmer tones except on a cloudy day. It is a VVS2 so it is pretty clear and sparkly. Most people think its a lot bigger than what it is first and no one notices the color. I think I only notice because I wear it all the time.

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