Post # 1
Hello ladies! I need some help figuring out what I should do about a special dance request.
One of my olders sisters had a civil ceremony about 8 months before her church wedding. Because they had been married already, they decided a large reception was inappropriate and decided to do a backyard barbeque for the reception with no dancing. This means my sister never got to have a ‘first dance’ with my Dad.
The idea was brought up to me about having a ‘Father/Daughter’ dance for my Dad and sister at my wedding because she didn’t have one 9 years ago. It wouldn’t be like my dance, but they would play “Butterfly Kisses” (the song she always wanted to dance to my father with) during the open dancing part of the night.
I have no problem with this in theory. I love my sister and I think she’d really appreciate the gesture, but it is weird to play “Butterfly Kisses” as a general slow dance? Would it wind up being just the 2 of them on the dance floor and then require some explanation as to why they are out there dancing?
Help! Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
I don’t think so– most people don’t pay that much attention to the song selections (except for the announced ones) so most people probably wont notice.
Post # 4
I haven’t heard the song played at a wedding during the general dancing. I think it is a little bit of an odd request since it is your wedding. Maybe it depends on who made the request, but I would not do it if it were my wedding….and that would not be to be mean, it would jsut be bc it’s my wedding and they can dance to one of the other songs that the DJ plays during the ceremony.
If that song were to play, your guests would expect to see you dancing with your dad me thinks.
Post # 5
I’ve seen it done where all fathers and daughters in attendance are asked to come to the floor for a father/daughter dance. Could you do something like that and allow your sister to dance with your father during that? You could do it after the formal dances so that no one is confused about why your sister is with your dad.
Post # 6
I think it is sweet. Will you have any other families with daughters and dad’s there? Could you have a “Dad and Daughter” dance that includes other people to?
Post # 7
@thenuggetbride: If that song were to play, your guests would expect to see you dancing with your dad me thinks.
I agree. If I were at a wedding and this song started playing, I’d be confused and thinking I should step off the dance floor or something. I can see it going the way of it being just the two of them out there…which would be kinda weird. Personally, I’m of the opinion that you give up this sort of thing once you do a courthouse wedding or a no-dancing reception. But if you’d like to do this for her that’s fine, but only if you’re okay with the thought that it may end up being just the two of them and you may have to explain about it.
Post # 8
There will only be 2 other Father/Daughter pairs there (we’ve had a lot of uncles pass away or get divorced) so a dance of 3 might be more awkward than just my Dad and my sister.
Thanks so much for your advise and if any one else has a thought I’d greatly appreciate it!