(Closed) Sweet revenge!!!!!!!

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Helper bee

I hate that people are trying to turn the OP into the bad guy for diggin deep down and overcomging the fear of seeing the girl that bullied her in highschool.

GOOD FOR YOU OP!

 

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Sorry, I’m with mandypop on this one. And I WAS bullied in Jr. High and HS. 

 

I became a HS teacher. And although I don’t, in any way, condone bullying, I’ve come to understand that very few adolescents have it made in the shade–everyone is going through their own private hell and no one at that age has developed sufficient self-awareness and empathy to see beyond their own problems. And I hate to say it, but that goes for bullies as well as victims. It’s also partly why so many bullies literally have no memory (some are too ashamed to remember, but most just don’t) of how they may have caused pain in others; they were too busy worrying about their own pain. 

I’m sorry, but to hold a grudge against someone who behaved terribly as a CHILD and to be mean as an ADULT is sort of lost on me. 

Post # 34
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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@MissFlowerPot: This isn’t about overcoming fear, this is about getting revenge, as stated in the title. The OP didn’t confront her fear, her bully approached her, acting quite civil to boot, and the OP responded with pettiness and left abruptly.

As BothCoasts stated, often bullies have their own issues and I have genuine compassion for the some of the people who treated me the worst in school; their lives certainly aren’t perfect but I’m not about to relish in that. I feel sorry for them that they haven’t found the happiness I have.

Post # 35
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Bumble bee

BothCoasts you bring up great points. It’s sometimes easy to forget that everyone is going through their own private hell.

I just felt some people were jumping on OP and she wasn’t trying to personally attack anyone on her thread. 

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Good for you op! 🙂

The rest of you get off your high horse. You know as well as I do that if someone hurt you to such a degree that years later you hace fear seeing them again, you would take a bit of glee in  comparing your life to theirs in your head. 

Its not like op,  said to her, “haha, bitch, who’s fat now!”  everyone chill.

Post # 39
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@imalittlebirdie:  But by doing the up and down smug look she did! Actions can hurt just as loud as words!

Post # 41
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Bumble bee

I have to admit, (I’m only 18 so who knows what I or any of my former classmates will look like in 10 years or so), but I was constantly bullied by every girl in my senior class. Every single one. They were mean, ruthless, hateful…for NO reason whatsoever. None. I didn’t talk to anyone, didn’t comment on anyone’s appearance, didn’t act rudely to anyone.

If one of those girls were to come up to ME, mind you; not me approaching HER to be blatantly rude, but if she approached ME in 10 years, hell yeah I’d do probably exactly what OP did. In my opinion, I don’t see where she was being rude or bitchy to this girl. The girl asked if she remembered her, and she said “Of course I do.” Who gives a flying flip if she looked the girl up and down. Girls do that to girls every day, to strangers they’ve NEVER EVEN MET and no one says a damn thing about it. OP deserves her moment of pride, because she is successful and fit!

Post # 42
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Bumble bee

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@icallitvera:  Very well said.

Honestly, I am thrilled that OP has found self-confidence and is in a better place than she was in high-school. We all should be so lucky!

There is a difference between dancing on the inside when someone gets their “just desserts” and acting out of spite. I’d rather remain humble and kind so if that places me on a high horse, so be it.

Post # 43
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

If this was the OP’s ex-boyfriend who had been shitty to her you all would be behind her.

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@mandypop:  

Agreed

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I was bullied in high school too. Very badly. I must say that I do get a smidgen of satisfaction when I see one of the popular people who were awful to me in school, the same people who used to call me fat and ugly, and seeing that they are now sloppy and overweight, divorced, no job, etc. etc. Anyone who says they don’t feel a little bit of gratification is lying.

Yes, it is nice to take the high road, but sometimes your emotions get the best of you and you just want to have that “IN YO FACE” moment with someone who was a total DB to you in the past.

I get it…no judgement here.

Post # 46
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Buzzing bee
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@mandypop:  I had a similar situation where a popular girl in HS made my life hell. I had switched schools and had few friends. Her and her friends always had snide comments and whispered. Well I ran into her a few years ago and asked her about it. It was a defense mechanism for her since one of my friends bullied her, she was getting me before I could get her in her eyes. We talked for three hours that night and she turned out to be a really nice person. Does it erase what happened in HS? No. But it certainly changed how I felt about her.

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