(Closed) Sweet tooth & pickey eater bees… how do/did you lose weight?

posted 8 years ago in Fitness
Post # 77
1351 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think you have to have an open mind to new and healthier foods. I think you have a mental block that you hate everying healthy and it’s hard for you to get past it. You need to take the time and make an effort to cook healthy things, you can use spices to make them taste better, you WILL eventually get used to the healthier foods. All your go to foods you listed are all bad foods, you have to try incorporate something healthy. Like PPs suggested, start small and build from there. Introduce one healthy snack a day and then build on it. You say you want to change so DO it. You have stop making excuses or your situation will NEVER change, post some inspiration on your fridge! Get a piggy bank and whenever you resist buying the junk food put the money in there instead and when you’ve lost 20lbs buy yourself something fabulous.

Post # 79
15038 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Well, I’m not a believer in cutting carbs.  I’m Chinese, I have a bowl of white rice every dinner my entire life… so I won’t touch on the cutting carbs aspect of any diet/eating habit, I dont completely buy it. 

Hmm.. that is a tough transition.  LOL, sorry, I cant think of any way to healthy up Mac& Cheese, pizza, tuna helper etc.  I totally agree that is sucks to prep and cook dinner after a long day.  I dread it too, and I cant cook to save my life either, and have recently copped out and just had cereal for dinner a few times.  I dont know if you like stir fry, but it’s super quick and mostly natural so I think it’s pretty healthy.  Things I’ve done before that help is to try to do all the prepping on one day like Sunday.  Chop up all the veggies, all the meat, marinade if you want.. usually just a touch of some soy based marinade.  Then when you get home on a week day, you save bunch of prep time, and a lot of dishes prepping and just throw some stuff in a pan and dinners done in 10-15 minutes.  If you dont marinade, no problem just sprinkle something on it while its cooking. 

Do you like fish?  You can bake just about any white fish and top it off with some bread crumbs and lemon, or some other spice you like and it’s pretty good.  Only takes 10 minutes or so to bake.  Salmon?  It can be fatty, but its a good fat.  Allrecipes.com has a really good maple glazed salmon.. just maple syrup, some soy sauce, pepper and garlic (I think it acutally might have more, but my lazy self has reduced it to these simple ingredients that I have and its still really good).  Or even plain salmon is just good to me, not sure if you like salmon.

What veggies do you like?  Can you start with those?  Just steamed or boiled with a touch of salt… no butter ๐Ÿ™‚  and that’s ready to go as a side dish.

Sliced beef, mainated in lime juice?  Then toss it all on a pan with peppers and onions, wrap it up in a whole wheat tortilla with salsa?  Skip the sour cream and cheese.

If you must have ice cream, buy (very) small bowls and allow yourself only one.  My mothers solution to eating too much ice cream that Ive adopted is to go into the freezer with a reagular spoon or soup spoon, (the bigger one in the place setting), and get one scoop.  The bowls I have usually only fit 3 scoops, so sometimes I allow a bowl.  And dont cheat and go for seconds! ๐Ÿ™‚

If you must have junk food, dont bring the box with you, take out your half serving or serving and then stop.

And for lunch.. how about if you were to cook, make a lot of whatever you have for dinner and taking in left overs.  I usually fall back on a salad, so if you dont like salad, how about yogurt?  Or a turkey and ham sandwich wiht mustard instead of mayo (or if you love mayo, hellmanns olive oil mayo is a little less fatty than their regular) instead of PB&J.  Do you like cottage cheese?  There’s a ton of different greens for different salads, are there any you like?  Or maybe you havent found a (lite) dressing you like?

Have you checked out http://www.skinnytaste.com/  ?  They have a lot of simple good recipes too.  And once you get in a groove and try things out, cooking becomes faster and easier.  A lot of times I do screw up my meal and it taste like crap… ah well, eat it and learn for next time. 


Post # 80
2331 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

That said, I know I’m not committed. I’m trying to figure out how to become committed and motivated. Everyone keeps telling me I just have to “want” it… but I do want it! But how do you force yourself to get to the gym on only 5 hours of sleep? I hate cooking… how do I convince myself I should cook healthy for an hour rather than relaxing after a 10 hour work day?

You have to want it more than you want to actually enjoy your food, more than you want that extra sleep or relaxation time.

Well, I’ll give you some good news first. If you don’t enjoy working out, don’t bother. While exercise has lots of mental and physical benefits, it’s not necessary for weight loss. It really is what you eat that will affect your body.

Listen, no one knows more than me how hard it is to transition from a carb heavy lifestyle. I would love to just cut everything out like a poster above suggested, lose the weight, and find I didn’t crave it anymore. Sadly, I’ve never gone even a whole day without caving and having something- whether it was bread or cereal or chips or candy. But I have cut way back.

The meals you listed a few posts back- cereal and banana for breakfast, soup for lunch, pretzels for snack, and hamburger and fries for dinner sounded EXACTLY like my every day meals for 10+ years. I never gained weight, but I couldn’t lose my potbelly or thick thighs or backfat. And I never knew why- I thought I was eating so healthily. I mean, cereal (provided it’s not like, Lucky Charms) is healthy right? Bananas are healthy. Pretzels are way lower in calories than chips. And as for the burger and fries- well a burger is protein, right, and if I only ate half the fries that came with the burger than it didn’t count.

So now I do things a little differently. I eat eggs for breakfast on the weekends only (I have to leave the house at 6 am M-F, I don’t have time to be rattling around the kitchen cooking) so most weekdays I do have cereal. I just pick the healthiest kind I can find and try to keep it to one cup (about 140 calories, 26 g of carbs, 13 g of protein). Some days I have a protein shake for breakfast but A. that can get costly, and I know you are worried about that, and b. sometimes it just doesn’t do it for me- I need something solid.

For snacks I pretty much stick to fruits, veggies, and nuts (almonds and pistachios). Sometimes I have turkey slices for a snack too. If I am desperately craving carbs/sugar I’ll have a fiber bar, but I try to do only do that on days when I have not had cereal for breakfast. If I am at home I can also have shrimp for a snack.

For lunches I usually have either a boneless, skinless chicken breast, or tuna mixed with miracle whip and fruit and veggies. Do I like chicken breasts? No. Do I like tuna? not really. Is it hard to eat it when my coworkers walk by with Jimmy Johns or McDonalds bags? You bet your ass. I have been adding buffalo sauce to the chicken lately and that makes a big difference. With the tuna I just eat it as quickly as possible. That was a big hurdle for me- accepting that my lunches were going to be boring and functional, and that was just a necessary evil.

Dinners are a struggle as my husband and I don’t much agree on anything and it’s hard enough coming up with things we both like. We have been grilling a lot lately, so I’ll just eat chicken, turkey, or a hotdog or brat (no bun, just eat it with a fork and ketchup), and that helps. Or if we go out, I usually order a salad with chicken or shrimp and steal a few of my husband’s fries (lucky for me, it’s eat or be eaten with my husband so I don’t really have a chance to take many before he finishes).

For now, could you compromise a bit? Choke down a chicken breast and then follow it up with one slice of pizza? or half the amount of spaghetti or macaroni you’d normally eat? Even just cutting your normal portions of carbs in half and adding lean protein and veggies in its place can make a difference.

Also, given your money concerns, canned tuna sucks but it’s cheap, low calorie, and full of protein- could that work? Produce can get expensive but just buy what’s on sale. I love strawberries, but I won’t buy them if they are more than $3 per pound. Usually super Target or super Walmart has them for less than $2 though.

Post # 81
440 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I read somewhere that any attitude or lifestyle habit we have that we don’t like or is unhealthy but carry on doing is because there is a benefit to stayig “stuck” in your routine. For you, your fear of changing your diet and lifesyle is is bigger than your fear of trying to losing weight. I’ll demonstrate:

You sayAnd I realize I’m making excuses… but honestly, I already don’t sleep much due to my work schedule and my insomnia, so I don’t know that getting even less would be healthy either. It’s tough to balance

but then say “If I get the craving and it’s not it the house I’ll go out there and get it, and it’ll end up costing more than a grocery shop

You’ve put a lot of reason out there why it’s too hard to this; money, time, energy. But I bet you don’t have to ask yourself twice if you should go to the shop and get that sugar hit your craving.

The truth is, it cost very little to make a change, you just have to WANT to do it.

Saying you don’t like “healthy food” is absolutely an excuse. There is an alternative to every food you want. Like fries/chips? Have oven cooked instead of fried. Like ice-cream? Have low-fat sorbet. Crave Chocolate? Have a low fat hot chocolate.

You need to work out what is putting these excuses in your way. Ask yourself why your so resistant to trying healthy food? What are you going to lose by changing your diet? You need to change the way you talk about food too. Saying “yes I’d lvoe to try that BUT…” is a negative view on your attitude.

Your whole mind set has to change before your habits can, otherwise it’ll be 4 days/2 weeks and you’ll just find yourself back where you started. Once you find youself saying ” I CAN do this and I WANT to do this” the rest will follow.

I have been exactly where you are and I’m fully sympathetic to how you feel. Now I go to the gym 2/3 times a week, cut back on carbs (I still LOVE my chips!) and listen to what my body wants rather than what my brain wants. I’m a total foody and burn my ass off at the gym and eat healthy 70% so the other 30% I can eat what I want guilt free.




Post # 82
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I learned to be less picky for one. I found many new foods that I now really enjoy! (like greek yogurt, cottage cheese, spinach, natural peanut butter, ectect)

Also, if you have a sweet tooth, try eating slightly more carbs. A lack of carbs is usually the cause of craving sweets

I suggest trying recipes like homemade protein bars. They have chocolate ones, banana ones, peanut butter ones, whatever. They’re really good if you’re craving dessert!

Post # 83
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ok, I say this as a fussy eater that has lost over 80lbs (so far…):

  • Don’t give up your favourite food. Depriving yourself of something always leads to disaster. Have a little of what you like every single da
  • Eat fresh fuit/veg. Consider shopping at a farmers’ market. I always thought I hated most veg until I tasted fresh stuff! Supermarket food is really nasty in compariso
  • Find naturally sweet treats. E.g. strawberries dipped in melted chocolate – makes the fruit easier to eat if you’re fussy and you can cut out the chocolate once you’ve developed a taste for the frui
  • Cook for yourself. It really does taste better, plus it has less nasty fake stuff in ther
  • Enjoy your food, don’t “diet”. If you enjoy your meals and look forward to them, it makes it much easier to stick to. Try new things, but don’t force yourself. Find a way of eating whih is so enjoyable that you will keep it up for lif
  • Don’t dwell on details. Counting calories is fine, but don’t worry about things like carbs/fat/protein. Your body is surprisingly good at telling you what you need to eat. If you’re hungry for something, that’s what you should eat (in moderation
  • Be flexible. If you have a sudden craving for a cookie, or a friend surprises you a with a cupcake don’t panic. You can always work your calorie budget around it. A cupcake now means I have soup for dinner instead of that pasta. No biggie.

These tactics are obviously aimed at sustaining your progress, rather than focusing on quick short-term results.

Also realise that this isn’t a one-size-fits-all scenario. Everyone has their own bad habits to break and will need to make their own adjustments, but I believe that most people will benefit from trying to eat in a more natural, flexible way rather than struggling with a strict plan that doesn’t work in the long term.

Good luck to anyone else trying to lose weight, and feel free to message me if you want any more information on my own weight-loss methods.

Post # 84
261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@Shaerena:  Hi there! I think your suggestions are very wise and totally agree with you. I don’t think one needs to go on a diet or eliminate carbs to lose weight and be fit. I succeeded in losing weight and keep myself in shape, simply by eating smaller amount of the foods I like and increasing the amount of fruit and vegetables. I walk a lot and work out twice a week and this helps too. By smaller amount I mean that I only eat what’s in my dish and never help myself to a second serving. It’s not a question of dieting, it’s more a question of choosing to eat healthily always.

Post # 87
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

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@galloway111:  Yeah I guess I just slowwwly decided to try new things. I hate trying new things lol, but I told myself it was for my own good. I’ve discovered lots of new things that I now love! ๐Ÿ™‚

Also, you say you’re really hungry all the time, do you drink enough water? Sometimes our brains think we’re hungry when we’re actually thirsty. 

Post # 89
261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@galloway111: Hi!! Yes, I usually have a snack in the afternoon, around 4. It’s usually a yogurt or a small piece of chocolate (like two little squares) along with a cup of tea or a glass of fruit juice.

Post # 90
221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think there’s a difference between wanting something, and really wanting something and thus doing something about it. I am a total sugar-aholic and carb addict too, especially when I eat a lot of carbs – the cycle just perpetuates itself. I’ve also always struggled with weight and have put in close to 20lbs since my wedding that I am now trying to take off.

Most people here work full time, have extra curriculars and also want to sleep so I think that’s a lousy excuse for not eating well. I work full time, am in school, have a horse I ride 5 days a week, MUST sleep at least 7 hours a night, and still find time to prepare and eat healthy meals. If you work for 10 hours and sleep for 7, where do the other 7 go? Surely in that time you can fit in 20 minutes of some exercise and use the other 40 of an hour to pre-make lunches or make dinner? 

Most foods that you dont like – is it because you have tried them and don’t like them, or you’re just assuming you wont like them?

Also, do you have a blender? They can be really helpful for making homemade soups for lunches and is also GREAT for smoothies, which I make often to kill the sugar craving and for breakfast. Boil some asparagus, a potato and throw the cooked veggies into the blender with some garlic, a bit of salt and chicken stock (soup!) and eat it with crackers and cheese or deli meat – lunch is done, and that can easily last for 2 lunches. I am totally addicted to smoothies – 3/4 cup of milk, some strawberries, a scoop of protein powder, some ground flax (super cheap, super healthy, and you cant taste it) and a teaspoon of all natural peanut butter. Sounds weird but its really good, sweet enough to fix the sugar craving, and high in protein. You dont even need the protein powder if you can’ t afford it right now. And you can drink it on your walk to work/school.

Do you like feta cheese? I love spinach salads and make them for 3 lunches a week on Sunday nights. Spinach, feta cheese, sliced strawberries, cucumbers and a 1/2 cup of chickpeas. Very filling and satisfying and with the feta you dont even *need* a dressing although I usually put an onion vinagrette on.

What else…. breakfast – whole wheat english muffins and some peanut butter I find are great and are portable. Protein, healthy fat, and carbs to keep you fuelled. I just remembered a pasta salad I always used to make…need to make it again! Half a box of elbow macaroni cooked (whole wheat! its only about 20 cents more up here and our groceries are notoriously more expensive?) with a can of tuna, a tiny bit of miracle whip to hold it together, some paprika and thin cut green oinions. Could add some other veggies too. Mix it all together, I like this best cold right out of the fridge, and this makes 2-3 lunches. I obviously don’t believe that carbs are the devil, but they need to be the right kind, and eaten in moderation.

Dinners dont have to take forever to make – mine are usually 30 minutes. Salmon goes in the oven (or the BBQ if you have one) with a few spices and a slice of lemon on top, and at the same time boil some green beans and in another pot boil some cut up sweet potatoes. Mash them with a bit of butter and salt and its awesome, AND they’re sweet, carb-y, and cheap.

One last thing, when I am trying to lose weight I find it most helpful to eat small meals often so I’m never STARVING, and so my blood sugar stays the same all day. I bring a yogurt, an apple, some almonds or walnuts and some grapes and have breakfast, then apple/almonds, then lunch, then yogurt/grapes, then dinner. If I even miss a snack, I am ravished by dinner and will eat more than I should.

I think it’s totally doable to make the changes without feeling totally deprived, because you dont HAVE to deprive yourself. You just need to eat sensibly, and make yourself stop when you know you need to. You’re already half way there in recognizing what you need to change and wanting to do so, and doing it in baby steps is a great idea. It’s not going to happen over night, but 6 months of “pain” is worth the lifetime of gain if you feel better about your body and have more self esteem.

Post # 91
679 posts
Busy bee

I just want to weigh in on a few of the issues here.

First, the affordability of eating healthily. Yes, you probably can’t afford all organic foods or to shop at the higher end grocery stores. I only have about $200 a month (if that!) to spend on groceries, and that includes household items like cleaners and toiletries. Here are a few of my tips:

  • Coupons are your friend. I clip mine from the Sunday paper (which I swipe from my parents or my office – no one else in my office cares about the coupons) but you can easily find coupons online these days. I don’t make a grocery list until I see what coupons I have. Common coupons include things like yogurt, nuts, cheese, cereal, crackers, soup, and I make sure to clip the ones for things like razors and shampoo, too. The trick is not to use the coupon just because you have it – only use it if it is something you need to buy anyway, and save the rest for later. I put mine in an envelope on my fridge.
  • When you get to the store, track down the weekly flyer. They’re usually kept right in the front as you walk in the door. It will tell you what the sales are that week. Again, look for what you already planned to buy. You need fruits and veggies, so see what’s on sale that you like and buy that. You need meat, see which cuts are on sale and buy those. Also check to see if dairy products or things like cereal, bread, etc are on sale.
  • Ask at the meat department if they have any “manager’s special” deals. Sometimes there will be packages of meat that they are going to pull from the shelves that day because they have reached the expiration date. They will sell those for a reduced price and you can take them home and put them immediately in the freezer, or cook them in one big batch and then freeze them. Ask at the deli counter if they have any “meat ends” they can give you (once the big pieces of meat are sliced to the end they often throw the end away because they can’t get those nice, uniform slices anymore). Some stores sell the ends for a reduced price. 
  • Check to see if there is a section for dented or damaged cans or boxes. Those are usually sold at a reduced price even though there is NOTHING wrong with them.
  • Do a quick Google search to see if you have any discount grocery stores near you. I’m not sure where in WI you are, but when I did a Google search I got several results for different locations. (Hilbert, Reedsburg, Gibbsville, Wautoma, and of course, Madison.) 
  • Forbid yourself from buying anything on impulse during the week. No more snack runs for something you just “have to have.” You eat what you bought at the grocery store or you don’t eat. If you added up the money you spent on your snack runs during the week, I’d be willing to bet you’d see you were spending A LOT, which could be money to contribute to buying healthier foods at the grocery store.

Here is a list of relatively inexpensive staple items:

  • Store brand tuna
  • Store brand 100% whole wheat bread
  • Store brand whole wheat pasta 
  • Chicken thighs and legs are much less expensive than breasts, remove the skin and they’re just as healthy
  • Cheaper cuts of beef can be tenderized by soaking in milk for one day
  • Store brand frozen veggies
  • Produce that is in season

It seems like the hardest thing for you is that you have a huge list of things you don’t like. Maybe it would be easier to make a list of things you DO like, eliminate the junkiest items, and then buy from that list. Make it a point to try new things that are similar to the things you know you like. For example, if you like lettuce, try spinach or kale. If you like potatoes, try sweet potatoes. If you like chili beans, try black beans, navy beans, or chickpeas.

If you’re a terrible cook, the best thing to do is practice, and not everything is complicated or takes a long time. Baking chicken or fish with just a sprinkle of seasoning and boiling some frozen veggies takes almost no prep and cooks in less than 30 minutes! Make double what you need and take it for lunch the next day. Make quadruple what you need and have two lunches and two dinners. Heck, even eating tuna straight out of the can is healthier than eating a cheeseburger and fries.

No one can motivate you to get healthy. I’m sorry you’re struggling so much, especially since it is partially due to clinical depression, but you keep saying that you “just can’t do it” and with that attitude, you’re right…you can’t. Perhaps it would be worth it to seek more counseling.

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