Post # 1
Hi bees! I’m tossing around the idea of a sweetheart table vs. a head table for the entire bridal party. My argument for having a sweetheart table is that my party is lopsided. 4 maids and only 2 men. My only worries are: I don’t have a “stage” or “platform” for my table, so will my sweetheart table get lost in the ocean of other tables? And how can i make it stand out? And second, where do I seat my bridal party? At their own tables? Or mixed in with their +1s? I would appreciate any opinions! Thank you 🙂
Post # 3
personally, i’m not a fan of sweatheart tables, but considering the lopsidedness, that may be the best option… If you did do a sweatheart, place your bridal party with their +1’s.. much more fun for them and their guests.
Post # 4
@JMS313: I’m also doing a sweetheart table bc most of our bridal party are married with kids and I think they’d enjoy themselves more at regular tables. Plus, sweetheart tables are more intimate and adoreable IMO
What we’re doing for ours is keeping it a decent size, and putting it up on a riser. We’re also using the floral arrangements that will be up at the alter in the ceremony to flank our sweetheart table during the reception. That way we’ll be front and center and it will still make a statement!
Post # 5
I definitely didn’t want a sweetheart table (the idea of being on display like that was just odd to me), but if you do decide to go that route, then you should definitely put your bridal party with their +1s. You can just find some sort of focal point in the room for the sweetheart table, and it might be nice to use a different sort of tablecloth on that table (maybe in an accent color?).
I don’t think the lopsidedness is really an issue, especially if they all have +1s… just put 3 BMs and their +1s on one side, and 2 GMS and 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man and their +1s on the other side.
Post # 6
We’re doing a sweetheart table And a separate table for the BMs/GMs and their dates. I am not a fan of head tables… The idea that your BP’s SOs/dates would have to sit by themselves doesn’t make sense to me. They are the dates of your Bridal Party, clearly they want to spend time together so it seems odd to me not to seat them together.
Post # 7
We did one, sat the Bridal Party with their spouses at one table kind of beside/in front of us. It was fantastic. We got a few intimate moments together that we would not have had if we’d have had a head table. I loved it.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2013 - The Skinner Barn
We’ve decided on a sweetheart table for our wedding. Honestly,we kind of like the idea of being part of the flow of the guest tables. We’re going to have them place us at one corner of the dance floor facing in so that we kind of have a front row seat to everything. This worked out for us because everyone in our bridal party is in a relationship or married and it would be super awkward for their +1’s for us to separate them. Plus, my fiance is having his dad be one of the groomsmen and it seemed silly to separate him from his wife.
Post # 9
I’m doing a sweetheart table. I don’t want to separate the wedding party from their +1’s. So they will be at their own table(s). I personally don’t care if we get lost amongst the other tables. I want that time to spend alone with my SO and be able to enjoy our dinner! I hear/read stories too often where people didn’t get to sit, relax, and enjoy their food. I don’t want that to happen to me! I honestly love the idea of a sweetheart table.
Post # 10
I’m doing a sweetheart table but we’ll probably be too busy to sit at it. not a fan of head tables at weddings.
Post # 11
We did the sweetheart table over the head table for a few reasons. 1) I had 7 girls and he only had 4 guys and none of the guys were SOs of my girls. 2) 3 of my girls are married or engaged so their Spouses would have had to sit alone. 3) I put the bridal party that wasn’t family at a table together, and the family member bridal party members with their family table. It worked out perfectly for us.