(Closed) Sweetheart table cons and pros

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

We’re not having a sweetheart table so I can only give you the “cons” that lead us to decide against it…

  • We would like 15 minutes to be able to eat in peace without all eyes on us, thats why we are sitting at a standard banquet table (like all of the rest of our guests) with both sets of parents and FI’s brother (best man) and SIL. 
  • We’re doing a first look so we will be able to spend time alone on our wedding day. Eating alone isn’t really our thing. We would rather spend that extra few minutes with the people who mean the most to us. 
  • A sweetheart table will look strange in our venue. 

Our friends were married last year and they had a sweetheart table. They weren’t even really given an opportunity to eat because they had guests at their table the whole time, wanting personal pictures with the couple. With that said, every guest list is different and maybe some will know to give the B&G a few minutes to eat in peace.
I have seen some pretty adorable sweetheart tables though! Most of the ones that I have seen didn’t really have centerpieces since the table is so small but they decorated them in other ways. Our friends used the bride/bridesmaids bouquets as the decor for their table and it looked great. It was kind of like this…

Post # 4
3314 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We chose to do a sweetheart table because we didn’t want to separate our wedding party members from their families (2 of whom had small children with them) and we didn’t want to appear to choose “sides” by sitting with one family over the other.  For us having the sweetheart table was just right!  🙂

Our sweetheart table:

Post # 5
7295 posts
Busy Beekeeper

i don’t think i would do one because i want to sit with my friend and family! i always eat dinner alone with Fiance, LOL.  also, i might not even do a traditional head table, instead i will let the bridal party sit with their SOs and friends and have our parents and siblings at the head table with us.

Post # 7
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We had a sweetheart table and loved it!  It was so nice to share the first meal as a married couple with my husband.  We originally did it because I’m a little shy around crowds, and I didn’t want everyone to watch me eat.  No one interrupted us while we were eating, and we got some really cute pictures. 


Picture: it was obviously a lot less cluttered before dinner arrived.  Also, if you are doing something really simple, it may make sense to buy the flowers in bulk (ex. online).  I had a relative handle all of the flowers for the reception, and I think they turned out great. 

Post # 8
566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think sweetheart tables are adorable in pictures but in practice not so practical for me. I really don’t like the idea of being in the front with people staring at us. Plus it feels kinda lonely and detached. But that’s just me and my weird issues.

Post # 9
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We had a sweetheart table and it totally worked for us. We had a total of 12 attendants, plus their dates, and many of them had their families there, so it just made sense for us. We didn’t sit there much, maybe about 15-30 minutes, and a lot of people did approach us to talk, but I don’t see how else we really could have done it! 



Post # 10
317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We had a sweetheart table and I had no regrets.  After the rush of the ceremony and pictures (we didn’t do a first look), it was really nice to have some time to ourselves.  People did come up to talk to us, but only between courses, so we were able to eat in peace together.  I used the same centerpieces on the sweetheart table as we had on the other tables.

Post # 11
301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We’re having a sweetheart table at our wedding.  Like a lot of others, our wedding party mostly have SO’s that they will, of course, want to sit with during dinner.  I’ve been the wedding date to someone in the bridal party where I knew NO ONE at the wedding and ended up sitting at a random table with a bunch of people I didn’t know.  AWKWARD!  So, I want to prevent this from happening to anyone at our wedding! 

Post # 12
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

We had a sweetheart table and I really enjoyed it. Yes, we did have people coming up to talk to us and take pictures, but we also had a good amount of time to sit and eat together. We asked our waitress to be served first so that we could eat while everyone else was eating but still have time to go from table to table. My husband and I were able to sit together, enjoy our food, have a few minutes alone and observe everyone around us. No one really tried to get pictures with us once we were out on the dance floor, so that’s when we got several good pictures with people.


Post # 13
381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We enjoyed having a sweetheart table for many of the same reasons pps said, gave us some privacy, it allowed us to eat quickly and get some photos done outside while guests ate and didn’t notice we were gone.  We didn’t have too many people coming up and interrupting us while we ate. We knew we wanted to go around to each table to talk to our guests (since we didn’t do a receiving line) after we did the outdoor shots, it made a natural break in pro photos as we went around to the tables to talk to people. 


Post # 14
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

We are going to sit at the head of our table and sit with our family and friends. 


Post # 15
5778 posts
Bee Keeper

The first time I ever saw a sweetheart table was 10 years ago, and it was a bit odd to me as I’d only ever seen full bridal party tables. I actually ended up loving them.

Both of my daughters did them and really loved it. Both had small bridal parties so it was a non-issue. except they both wanted to sit at huge tables instead of the small round ones.

BM bouquets flanking cake

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