Post # 1
I really want to have a sweetheart table, and because of the way our venue and their tables are, I think it would work best if my Fiance and I sat at our own table and our wedding party sat with their plus ones or family.
However, my Fiance doesn’t like the idea at all. He thinks that it’s weird (he’s never been at a wedding where they had a sweetheart table) and he also thinks that he and I will be “bored” eating alone without our friends.
Personally, I think we’re already going to spend the whole day chatting with and entertaining guests, taking photos and generally running around, so it will be nice to spend a couple of hours together just him and I through dinner.
Will we be bored or lonely at a table by ourselves? Experiences? Thoughts?
Pros and cons of a sweetheart table?
Post # 3
You probably won’t be at that table very long- you’ll eat your meal (most likely being the first served) and then get up to say hello to your guests. When we were married we probably sat at the sweetheart table for 15 minutes tops. It was nice having a few minutes alone.
Post # 4
we are doing a head table, but I did try to persuade Fiance into a sweetheart table for that very reason – some time to ourselves. big fail – he had the same reasonings your Fiance does, he wants to chat with the groomsmen and whatnot during dinner.
I figure that once dinner is over we’ll be up and around anyway, so I’m just choosing battles at this point. lol! but if you feel strongly one way or another, keep discussing it with him. you don’t need to decide either way until you have to submit a seating plan to your venue 🙂
Post # 5
We did a sweetheart table. We weren’t there long enough to get bored. We were walking around greeting everyone, or they came to us.
Post # 6
I would think you would only be at that table for a few minutes (long enough to eat), not hours. In an effort to convince your FH do some research online and show him what you find. Maybe that will persuade him to change his mind.
Post # 7
You will not be alone at that table. Everyone says “Awwww that’s so cute! They’re having their first dinner alone together!” and then comes up to have a 15 minute conversation with you about how romantic and sweet it is while your meal gets cold. Oh sorry, do I sound a bit jaded about it? LOL! Seriously, I just started being rude and ate after the third person showed up.
Post # 8
@DeathByDesign: We loved it. We were able to sit together and take everything in. The entire day is a total whirlwind and it’s really the only part of the day (besides our first look) that we had just with each other. It also allows people to walk up and say hi to you and take pictures if they want. It sounds silly but it was a great time for DH and I to gossip about everyone and what they were wearing. And since we wrote our own vows we were able to talk about what we thought about the others with them. You’re only there for like a minute anyway.
Post # 9
It’s so funny that you wrote that. DH in his thank you speech prior to the meal, asked for people to allow us to have our first meal together as husband and wife and then made a joke about people not bothering us, and people still did LOL
Post # 10
I’ve only been to a four weddings as an adult and those were the only ones where I actually paid any attention to where people were sitting. Two had large head tables with the bride, groom, and whole wedding party. One had a regular sweetheart table with just the bride and groom. And one had what they called a sweetheart table, but it had the bride, groom, and their parents. None of the brides and grooms were at any of the head tables or sweetheart tables for more than 15-20 minutes, at absolute most. They were all served first and then started working their way around the rooms to greet and thank everyone. Everyone does something a little different, so do what you want and what will work nicely with the venue.
Post # 11
We had a sweetheart table and, like others said, we weren’t there for long. We were the first to sit down to eat and I think we were up from our table before the last table even got in line for the buffett.
I really liked having a sweetheart table. People could come up and chat with us (haha, Bakerella – I never even considered *not* eating when people came by!) and we also got a few minutes alone to just enjoy each other before the party got started. We weren’t bored (hello? how is he worried that sitting at your own table would be boring?)
I don’t remember a whole lot from our day very clearly, but I remember those first few minutes alone at our table – it felt like we were in the eye of a storm, calm and lovely. Maybe you can mention to your Fiance that he will spend all morning before the ceremony with the groomsman and have tons of time during the reception to talk with them, too. But those few precious moments where it will be just the two of you will be hard to find anywhere else on your big day.
Post # 12
I liked the sweetheart table. When we were almost done eating people started coming up to talk to us. It felt weird to talk to someone who was standing while we were sitting, so we stood up. Then more people came over. We didn’t get seconds (we were STARVING) but we did get 15 minutes alone. We had two full days with our bridal party, so it wasn’t like we really want to chit chat with them anyways.
Post # 13
We had a sweetheart table, it was so nice having just him and me there for dinner because like you said, you’ll be busy with friends and family the rest of the day. Plus, people end up coming up to your table the whole time and talking to you anyway.
Post # 14
We are having a sweatheart table and me and Fiance both are all about it. You won’t be sitting for long anyways. You (should) be the first ones served and it’ll give you and him a moment to eat and talk before you are off to greet guests while they eat and/or it makes it easier for guests to speak to you without bothering other people at your table. Sitting with your friends would be a waste of 2 seats at thier table.
Post # 15
My friend had a head table. I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man and all of us had +1 that weren’t sitting with us. As soon as the bride+groom got up to greet the guests at each table, the bridal party also left the head table to hang out with their dates. The head table was empty most of the night and I thought it looked kind of funny. For that reason, I like the sweatheart table!
Post # 16
We arent going to do a sweetheart table, i didnt want to in the first place and my Fiance doesnt care either way, but after reading most of these posts, it seems better to sit with our bridal party anyway so we can look like we are talking to them and the guests wont come up and interupt our dinner 😉 But i guess it doesnt matter either way since we wont be sitting long anyway..