(Closed) Sweetheart Table or Head Table?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Do/Did you prefer a sweetheart table or a head table?

    Sweetheart Table

    Head Table

  • Post # 3
    183 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We had a sweetheart table at our rehearsal dinner (we didn’t request it they just set it up at the restaurant) and then a head table at the wedding, which wasn’t your typical head table in that it wasn’t in front of the other guests, facing them, it was just one of the tables in the mix of tables, it just happened to seat the wedding party.

    I really didn’t like the experience of the sweetheart table because we felt separated from our guests. They were all having a blast and we were in the corner watching them!


    Post # 4
    920 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We are actually doing neither.  We are intermixing ourselves throughout the guest tables.  We chose this because 1) I hate being the center of attention, 2) we want everyone to sit with who they are comfortable with and can talk to, and 3) I need more conversation than just Fiance :).

    Post # 5
    8434 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We didn’t do either because I hate head tables splitting up dates and a sweetheart table just felt uncomfortable.  Then again, I’m not one that likes a lot of attention, especially while I’m eating, so we just sat amongst our guests.

    Post # 6
    551 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @lina010:  We’re having a sweetheart table for ourselves and head tables for our bridal party and their dates. I have been advised by other couples to have a sweetheart table because it is the only time ALL day that you are alone and can soak everything in. Although I have never heard of anyone else having the bridal party sit with their dates, I decided since we will be spending a lot of money on bouquets and decor for the head tables and it is absolutely no fun to be ‘the date who doesn’t know anyone else at the wedding’, either the head table will be empty all night because everyone’s lingering near their date’s table or their date will be alone!

    Post # 7
    335 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I personally think head tables are a bit awkward. Especially if the bridal party has dates that aren’t at the same table. If I were a bridesmaid at a head table and not allowed to sit with my Fiance, I wouldn’t be very happy about it.

    Also, I feel like people get up and move around a lot, and with a sweetheart table you don’t need to worry about ditching anyone to thank guests, or to talk to other people.

    Post # 8
    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We had a head table. I liked it. I got to talk more to my bridal party which was nice since I don’t get to see them often. It also still allowed me the time to talk with DH.

    Post # 9
    5062 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    We are doing a head table. I think it’s a nice to honour our families and so they feel special too. 

    Post # 10
    2457 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Sweetheart table!!

    I got to relax and be just with DH, and we could sit down and (try to) talk, just the two of us. Plus, almost every member of our bridal party had a significant other, so I wasn’t about to make their partners sit without them.  

    Post # 11
    326 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We were going to do a headtable but changed it to a sweetheart instead.. I felt like our bridal party should sit with their dates..i didn’t want dates or people feeling uncomfortable while their husbands/wives, girlfriends/boyfriends were sitting somewhere else. Plus I liked having that intimate feeling with dh and sitting together alone.

    Post # 12
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    The past few weddings I’ve attended (including mine) have had sweethearts tables. It’s nice to let the Bridal Party sit with their family, friends and SOs, and I liked having the chance to just hang out with DH alone and chat/observe. In addition, specifically to our venue, the sweethearts table/head table would be raised up on a platform and the head table looked too The Last Supper when it is boosted up like that.

    Post # 13
    3694 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I was so insistent on having a sweetheart table and my husband was totally in favor, since he wanted to be able to EAT. 

    #1 – you get a chance to eat.

    #2 – you get a chance to sit down and actually talk to each other, right after you GET MARRIED.

    #3 – your wedding party can sit with their dates and their friends and not all awkwardly up in front of everyone

    #4 – you don’t have to pick who to sit with if not at a tradional head table (My parents, no mine!)

    #5 – you aren’t there for long, anyway, the bubble is nice for a few minutes

    (Two weeks before I had the pleasure of sitting with a bunch of my SIL’s college friends at their wedding while my husband was at the head table being his brother’s best man.  It sucked.  I got so so drunk because I was so so irritated at not even being with the rest of the “family.”  It was a good time after hubs snuck me a few drinks, I guess…)

    Post # 14
    4042 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    My Fiance wants to do a head table, but in the UK it’s different, as parents and close family sit at the head table – not the whole wedding party.

    I want a sweetheart table though. I’m an introvert, and I want those few minutes to just sit and eat in peace with my new husband and take a break from others. I’ll need that time to recharge.

    FI’s fine with a sweetheart table, so I think that’s what we’ll do, though he still wants the head table. He just isn’t as adamant about it as I am about sitting alone.

    Post # 15
    374 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014


    I say both!! This what I plan on doing 

    Post # 16
    2511 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    we had a sweetheart table because we didn’t have a bridal party.

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